Post # 1
I am working on the wording for our Invites, at my resort there are child minding facilities (its a 5 star resort) and comes well recommended. It is a small cost and we will cover it. It is located near to the chapel and adjacent to the restuarant we are having the reception in. I am not sure if I should put the following words on my invite:
Your children are welcome at our ceremony & reception.
IF YOU PREFER CHILD–MINDING
FACILITIEs ARE AVAILABLE AT THE
NEXT TO THE xxxxxx RESTAURANT
FOR THE DURATION OF THE
CEREMONY AND RECEPTION.
Or just delete the top part (Your children are welcome at our etc) and say if you prefer child minding…..etc. So people can just choose. I dont mind children if they are quiet and well behaved (lol type A), but also it is a small chapel, and I wouldnt want noise to echo through and we are videoing it. But I know a lot of parents enjoy childfree events to relax and a lot hate them and might feel slighted that their child is not invited. I wouldnt want people to RSVP No for the whole DW over the fact they think their children cant come to the ceremony or reception. Any suggestions?
Edit: Sorry about different fonts, tried to copy but it changed it all.
Post # 3
We didn’t mention it on our invites (but we didn’t mind if people did bring kids) and some people did first say they were bringing their kids. However, everyone has decided to leave kids with grandparents etc. and have a proper grown up holiday! Hope it works out for you! 🙂
Post # 4
Are you having a wedding website or putting together an info pack for your guests about the resort etc? I would just put it in there and not on the invite. I would also mention on the website/info pack that you will be providing childcare for anyone who wants to utilise it during the ceremony/reception in case they want to live it up. Leave it up to the parents to decide if they want to pop them in there or not.
We had 3 babies/toddlers at our DW and none of them made a peep or were disruptive.
Post # 5
@Miss TNK: thank you 🙂
@j_jaye: thanks yes we are, just found out guests staying at our resort get free childcare anyway so will put those details on our website and guests can chose themselves.
Post # 6
I’m not saying anything about children on my invitations, but I will list the addressees so it’s clear children are invited. When I sent out my save the dates, I hand wrote a short note in a card to each guest (and FI did same for his guests) and I mentioned to guests with small children that children were welcome and that we were hoping to have (optional) babysitting services available for those parents who wanted to use it. I know that not all parents are comfortable leaving their children with unknown babysitters so I wouldn’t try to enforce it.
Once I get the RSVPs back and see for sure who’s planning on bringing kids, I may contact those people and ask whether they’d be interested in having the babysitting service available. I don’t want to set it up if no one is going to use it, but I would like it to be an option if anyone might use it, mostly because my reception is going to have a live band, open bar, etc., and while I have no problem with kids at receptions if they’re having fun, I’m thinking it might be a bit much for smaller kids.
I’m not going a resort weddig – just getting married in a different city from where I live – so the logistics of setting up babysitting will be a bit more complicated for me.
Post # 7
No children it was an all adult resort. In the STD’s I made a comment like leave the kiddies at home and get ready for some fun in the sun