- 3 years ago
I would like to know your guys opinion on a DW etiquette and how you would react personally to this DW situation. Hopefully I explain it in a way that makes sense lol. Any opinions would be appreciated! Im sorry it is so long!!
The DW would be located in Jamaica at an all inclusive resort. Guests would have to fly into Jamaica. The bride and groom would like to pay for everyone, resort (all inclusive, drinks included) and flights from each guest home country. I have two issues I would like your opinion on. Poll is for question 2.
#1, the couple would like to pay for everyone because it is very important for those people to be there and 99% of guest would have trouble affording the trip. 90% of the guest are close family and would struggle to afford to come, but would come anyways if they had to pay (known fact). 9% of the guest are friends and would not be able to afford trip at all. the 1% of the guest (close family) are the furthest away (most expensive flights) from Jamaica and are very wealthy, and would come to the DW if we paid or not. Is it okay to pay for everyones trip except the 1% of guest that can truly afford to come? Bride and groom are not announcing that they are paying for everyone but instead will speak to each guest individually to work out details. (This 1% would include 3 invitations towards the same portion of the family; meaning two grown adult children and a husband/wife + kids invite, if that makes a difference, so its just not one couple who is not being paid for, flying in from different countries, etc. Plus ones would be given to the adult children, as well as the younger children (it is normal for the family to bring along the childrens friends on their vacations for this family) if they are not paid for )
#2, (poll added for this example!) the couple is only inviting close friends (would be bridal party in a local wedding, but couple would not have a bridal party if its a dw) and will be paying (resorts and flights). THe bride invites two friends (both are married) and the groom invites two friends (one is married), is it ok to only invite the friends (total of 4) and not their other halfs since the bride and groom are paying? The friends on both sides (the two friends on the brides side are bestfriends, and the two friends on the grooms side are bestfriends) would share a room (one for the brides friends and one for the grooms friends). The bride and groom do not have any issues with anyones significant others and often enjoy thier company, but this comes down to money. For example if one friends decided to spend the extra money on the flight to jamaica for their other half, we would love to have them at the wedding, except I do not know how the rooms will go. For example if its just the friends and no other halfs, bride and groom would pay for two rooms. Now if one friends brings their wife, they would need a seperate room, meaning we would need three rooms, because it is an all inclusive resort prices change based on occupany. Would the friend who brought his wife ask for the money we would have spent for him to stay in the other friends room for his new room? Increasing our cost for the other friend we would have to pay?
#3, if bride and groom are paying for the flight and resort stay, should they worry about other costs such as taxis to the airport? luggage fees? what about airport layovers that would be longer than 3hrs (for food drinks etc)? Or is it ok to assume guest will understand that is for them to pay for?
Are any of the situations rude? What would you do? If you were invited to an all paid wedding for a bestfriend without your other half would you go? (not taking into account if you could take of work or find a babysitter etc). What you be offended? Also if you were invited somewhere you had to travel and later found out that everyone elses trip was paid for, would you be upset? Even if the trip didnt cause you hardship?