- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
I’m having a destination wedding in the Rocky Mountains — if previously planned venue isn’t going to change. I’m trying to plan my surprise for my FI and my mom for musical performances. My dad just passed away 3 Sundays ago; my mom’s best friend contacted me and had thought that it would be appropriate for me to play/sing You Raise Me Up for both my parents. (I actually played that song for him 8 years ago on Father’s Day while the church choir sang.)
It typically takes 5 to 6 hours for guests to drive there. I am asking around to see who needs transportation and would look around for either a coach rental or assign a car pool and offer a red packet to the assigned drivers in exchange for their help.
Because it would cost more to get my photographer start earlier in the morning, I am thinking of skipping the getting ready pictures. Instead, have these documented: tea ceremony, ceremony and reception. I find getting ready pictures are more fun when taken by family or friends anyway. The price difference is 1 grand, at least.
How long does a typical Chinese tea ceremony take? An hour? More or less??
I’m not sure if my timelines would work:
1 PM – Tea Ceremony; I will be ordering take-away lunch boxes, so that guests won’t arrive hungry. I doubt I’d get a traditional roast pig unless the small town Chinese restaurant would do it!
3 PM – Outdoor Anglican church ceremony
Budget 45 minutes to an hour (and a half) for pictures with family as well as with FI alone and/or with bridal party
6 PM sharp – Dinner/Reception; dinner is buffet-style — so we could say grace or a quick thanksgiving prayer before dinner. (2 minutes max) Then, have some quick games with guests to see which table gets to go first.
(No cocktail hour, but guests can go to the bar at the lobby if they wanted drinks. However, I am planning to serve wine during dinner. So, limited wine service.)
6.35 PM to 6.45 PM: Speeches start rolling during dinner
Items that are fuzzy in order:
B & G Dance first?? (or later?)
(Thank You speeches here??)
Musical Performances first?
(4 minutes Slide show??) 2 minutes for FI and 2 minutes for myself.
Thing is, I am also trying to surprise my FI with Carole King’s version of You Make Me Feel Like A Natural Woman. He’s going to perform with me at some point with my uncle as well, I think — since my dad was going to play rhythm or bass guitar. My FI or his best man will help fill in.
(Yes, I’ve heard comments about the bride or groom shouldn’t be performing on their big day; i.e. that we should be relaxing and enjoying. However, my dad started a family tradition of playing music together at family reunion events. It’s our way of honouring him since he played a big part in inspiring me with music.)
Thanks in advance for your inputs/opinions on logistics. Ideally, I’d like the important bits finish by 9.30 pm or 10 pm latest. Then, guests who’d like to continue dancing the night away can do so until midnight.