DW: Fitting Chinese Tea Ceremony, Wedding Ceremony and Reception in 1 Day

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 4
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

First of all, I’m so sorry for your loss! I think the idea of honoring your father is so sweet and will be a great part of your day.

As far as the tea ceremony goes, my parents have insisted that it will take hours (a lot of first-time confusion, plus lots of pictures of EVERYTHING and EVERYONE). I’m not convinced it will take that long. But FI and I both have pretty large families so it might just be that. I’m personally doing a 10am tea ceremony, with the hope of a relaxed kind of lunch period then a first look and our ceremony at 4pm, reception at 6:30.

I would start with the first dance right after your entrance, then sprinkle in toasts and other activities throughout dinner. We are planning on cutting the cake at around 9:30 as well, then doing parent dances which will segue into the dance floor opening – I think This could be a lovely place for a performance, and transitioning into dancing would remove any awkwardness too 🙂

Post # 5
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

First of all, I’m sorry for your loss. But it sounds like you have a wonderful wedding planned!

I can only tell you what we did. Our tea ceremony was SUPER short, but we only did parents (I have lots of parents, DH only has one, so all in all, we went through four “sets” total, since we had people come up separately). It lasted a total of 15 minutes. 

This was our schedule:

2:30 The door games/bridal kidnapping

3:00 Tea ceremony

4:30 First look/pictures

6:00 Western ceremony

6:30 Cocktail hour

7:00 Bride/groom entrance and first dance

7:05 Dinner

7:45 Speeches

8:00 Father/daughter dance

8:10 cake cutting

8:15 bouqeut/garter

From then on, party all night long. 

I felt like the hour and a half between our tea ceremony and our first look was perfect. It gave me enough time to change dresses, touch up makeup, take out the Chinese hair ornaments and put in my veil, and drive the 20 minutes to the ceremony site. I suppose your logistics would depend on 1.) how many people in your tea ceremony 2.) how involved the changing of your clothes will be. Hope this helps!

Post # 7
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I went to a Chinese-Vietnamese wedding last summer and the tea ceremony involved the bride&groom giving tea to the family members, the family memebers then gave the lucky money– is this only what’s included in yours? (Sorry, I’m white, and that was my first). The tea ceremony I saw was not very organized lol and included maybe 50 tea/gift blessings and took probably 2 hours. Each time a couple went up, it felt like 2-5min. (but there was also time wasted yelling for the family member to be found amongst the crowd, haha, pretty wild)

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