Post # 1
Hey Bees! I’m somewhat new the site. I’ve read lots of posts here and have found some of the info shared very helpful. My fiancé and I are having a DW/Elopement, we booked an elopement package at a B&B that allows us to have up to 15 ppl present. We also booked a small private room for an intimate dinner at a nearby hotel. For the exception of my MOH, one of my good friends and my little brother, we haven’t told our families, but we are planning on doing it soon as we are getting married this December. The reason we are keeping it so small is obviously cost and because we don’t want to deal with the drama and BS that come with planning a big “traditional” wedding. Although this an elopement I will be wearing a wedding gown, we have already purchased our wedding bands, we have hired a photographer and I have ordered flowers for the bouquets and boutonnieres. Thanks to an awesome photography deal I saw on Amazon LocalDeals, we are even having engagement pics taken in three wks!
I have a few questions, as I am not sure what to do and I don’t want to break any etiquette rules. We will probably end up having about 15 – 20 ppl at dinner, I’m not sure if I should buy favors, have menu or escorts cards printed. Also should I have some kind of welcome bag for our guests arriving from out of town? This is stuff you normally would do for a traditional wedding but not an elopement, it also defeat the purpose of keeping the cost down. Obviously there will not be a rehearsal dinner as there is nothing to rehearse or go over.
After the wedding, we plan on sending out wedding announcements and Thank You cards to those who attended our small private affair. Surprisingly enough, my fiancé wants to have a registry in the event ppl find out prior the announcement being sent out. Would it be too tacky if we included on the wedding announcement that we have a registry? I don’t want ppl to think we sent out the announcements because we want gifts. I know have more questions, but these are the more pressing ones I can think of.
Thanks for your all your help and SO SORRY for the long post
Post # 3
Congratulations! It sounds lovely! I wore a lace strapless gown for my elopement! I often called it a wedding without guests. LOL
I do not think favors or OOT bags are necessary – whether it’s a big or little wedding.
Menu cards – will you let the guests pick from the full menu? If you wanted to narrow down the menu to maybe 3 entrees, you can print up shortened menus yourself (vistaprint.com is cheap!) and let the guests choose from there – to cut down on costs. But if you’re going with the full menu that’s not necessary. I guess it’s if you want to got through the hassle of doing little details or not.
Would it be too tacky if we included on the wedding announcement that we have a registry
For registries, yes, it is poor etiquette to print this information anywhere on anything. The nly exception is a shower invitation (baby or bridal). Then it’s OK to mention registries.
If you decide to put together a regsitry (we did too after much pressuring from his mom, I felt weird about it), only tell people about it IF they ask you and let it get spread by word of mouth.
Generally, wedding annoucements are not gift solicting mailings – it’s just an FYI to let other know you got married.
Post # 4
Thank you so much!!! You removed all the doubts I had. I never thought of going to vistaprint. Great idea!
Funny about the registry, I went to a bridal show yesterday and I got a little pressure from my good friend about it. She even inlisted the help of one the vendors and they both made a good point. They said once people find out they will want to get us a gift, why have them buy us something we want instead of something they think we would like.
Post # 5
@MarMBer: That’s what my MIL said, “Your aunt wants to get you a gift, so it might as well be something that you like!” Some families give gifts, and other families give money. I was really surprised at the gifts we got, even from his aunts I’ve never met! Very thoughtful and we were blown away, given it was an elopement.
Post # 6
Just found this post and oh wow – you’re getting married in two days! Please let us know how everything goes, as my SO and I are also planning an intimate wedding in St. Augustine for May. It’ll be just the two of us though but we have our hearts set on a fun inn in the historic district. We’re not making any plans until he officially pops the question, though (which should be VERY soon). May I ask which B&B you are planning your wedding at?
I’m sorry that I’m not much help at answering any of your questions; I just got excited when I saw that you were getting married in St. Augustine also. Good luck 🙂
Post # 7
@iheartmarshall: Well.. We just got back and everything turned out great. We had wonderful weather and the B&B where our ceremony was held was beyond fanastic! The Casa de Solana, is the 2nd oldest B&B in historic downtown and it was BEAUTIFUL!! The event coordinator decorated the courtyard and it looked wonderful! I will post pics in a separate post. We honestly couldn’t have asked for a better venue to have our ceremony. I’m not sure if you have ever been to St. Augustine, but it has 26 different B&B all with different feels and location. We wanted a something with history and Spanish influences, which is why we choose Casa de Solana amongst other reasons. Please let me know if I can help with anything, all the vendors we used were FABULOUS and would definitely recommend them. Good luck and I hope he pops the question SOON!
Post # 8
@iheartmarshall: I am getting married on St Augustine too!
@MarMBer: I saw your recap post – gorgeous!
Post # 9
I got married in St. Augustine last year at Cedar House Inn! Our anniversary is in 10 days.
Post # 10
I’m originally from St. Augustine & it is a simply beautiful and magical place! I’m sure your day will be amazing, no matter what you decided to do about favors, registries etc..
The day is about allowing other to share in the happiness of two lives becoming one; it is not able making those people feel catered to in any extreme way. If the day is lovely for you, I’m sure your guests will feel the same way 🙂