Dying on the inside…. :-(

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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1947 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@graygodess20:  I am soooo sooooo sorry.  Don’t have any words just lots and lots of HUGS.  I had a chemical pregnancy a few months ago, so while I can’t understand how much more your feelings must be hurt, I know how much I was hurting after mine, even though I only thought I was pregnant for a week.  Over NYE, I spent a whole week with one of my best friends who was 20 weeks pregnant and it was so so painful.  But I survived.  You’ll get through it.  One day at a time, one hour at a time.  Sending you lots of love.

 

 

 

Post # 4
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2839 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m so so sorry. I really know how you feel. I don’t think there is any answer to “why us?” It just sucks. There is nothing you did to deserve it. I’m so sorry and sending you hope for a lot of healing very soon.

Post # 6
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6502 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015

@graygodess20:  I have no advice. One of my friends just had a miscarriage, and it’s terrible. Just remember that it’s not your fault, and it doesn’t mean you cannot get pregnant fairly soon. Take some time to process it, and if you can go out in a trip or something, that might help. Sending positive thoughts. ((Hugs)).

Post # 7
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202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. It is so understandable when you see someone else so happy and you are so depressed.  Try not to push DH away.  You don’t need that conflict on top of this too.  It’s good he cares so much that he is trying to help but doesn’t know how.  Just let him comfort you and find something distracting to do together, like a trip, to solidify your bond.

Post # 8
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1947 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I know the feeling. Two weeks after my chemical, I took a bad fall and broke a bone and tore some ligaments in my ankle.  I thought the universe was totally against me. Not only did I lose my baby, but I had to hobble around on crutches for 6 weeks.  Miserableness.  Sometimes when it rains it pours.

Try to let your DH in and comfort you or just be he shoulder to cry on.  It’s tough, because sometimes they don’t grieve as much, but he loves you And wants to be there for you. Xoxoxo

Post # 10
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6502 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015

@graygodess20:  I don’t think it is necessary to wait that long. I have heard that waiting one cycle is good enough. I thought all it was important was to make sure you are ovulating and one cycle should be enough. Why such a long wait?

Post # 11
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614 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@graygodess20:  oh, sweetie, I am so sorry you’re going through this. Are you able to go talk with a counselor or therapist? It could be really helpful for your healing process. Massive internet hugs for you and your DH.

Post # 12
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1847 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@graygodess20:  I’m so sorry, I remember you from your threads a few weeks ago, my heart broke for you.. 🙁   I can see how this would make you even more emotional, catching you by surprise… It probably would have been easier to swallow if they had been trying for awhile – just seems unfair. 🙁  

I agree with PP’s that say to try to let this bring you and DH closer together instead of driving you apart. Talk it all out with him, it will probably help the healing…

Post # 13
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97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 1994

@graygodess20:  you really need to seek counselling. I think you could definitely use some guidance to help you both grieve. You sound totally gutted, and I can understand that, but I worry because this type of depression can really hurt families. 

Post # 15
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1864 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m so sorry, dear, I wish there was something I could say to help you feel better. I can’t imagine how hard it is to hear about others getting pregnant so quickly while TTC as well as having had a miscarriage. *Hugs*

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