- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 2016
My first vent! Is there a badge for this?! FI feels awful for messing up, so I’m venting on WB instead of on him. :-/
First of all, I should say that FI and I are long distance. I am still in college and he has moved back home to work. He visits me pretty often, but all aspects of planning have been a real pain!
I left the engagement party planning to FI and his aunt. FI told me, repeatedly, that the date was March 18th. That worked for almost all of my family, so I was stoked about that.
Today, he tells me the date is actually the 19th. Such a small change, right? Well….all hell broke loose with my family. Apparently, there is this out of town expo that has been planned for over a year, that all of my family is going to on the 19th. My mom, dad, aunt and uncle, and close cousins (about half of my side of the e-party guest list).
The date can’t be changed because FI’s work schedule changes on the 19th, and his hours get weird. He is a paramedic, newly hired at a big company. He’s getting thrown into different shifts, so we can’t really reschedule until his work hours get more predictable.
FI asked me for my guest list and a few of our fave e-pics for the invites, so I emailed those to him two days ago. Apparently, his aunt had already printed and ordered the invites. She got our engagement photos off Facebook, which are extremely low quality (i used the screen snapshot tool on my computer to get them).
Furthermore, my sister (MOH) already got the time off work for the e-party. This rarely happens and I was beyond excited that she could be there.
FI and I have agreed not to fight during our engagement and wedding planning process. This does NOT mean that we avoid discussing things with each other, we have just promised to do it lovingly and to make extra effort to listen to each other’s opinions. We talked to each other about this about an hour ago and agreed to reschedule the e-party for June (I’ll be done with college!!! yay!!!). He has agreed to talk to his aunt as well. He has totally taken responsibility for the mistake, but I am still really upset.
Our e-party is the first time our families are meeting. It’s crazy because we have been together since I was 15 years old (I’m just about 22). This is because my family is eerrhm….non-traditional (read: hick, often inappropriate, dysfunctional) and his family is the picture perfect family (the kind of family you see on vacation advertisements and stouffer’s commercials, lol). So, I’ve been a little worried about them meeting. I was really getting pumped for it though! I was also hoping my mom could meet my FMIL before we go dress shopping together (which is the monday after our e-party).
I’m sure all of you bees have had FI’s make mistakes during the planning process, so I figured you’d understand this vent. I love my fiancee to the moon and back, but I will not let him take on a project by himself again!!! lol.