Post # 1
So my engagement pics are at the end of the month and I’m freaking out because I am nowhere near the size I want to be. I’m really concerned that my feelings about my body will show and negatively affect my pictures.
Something that compounds the issue — my fiance is also a woman and is tall and thin and basically everything I wish I looked like. I feel like we look really strange together and I’m really, really self-conscious about taking pictures with her in particular.
Does anyone have any advice for keeping my personal feelings about my weight and about how we look together out of my engagement shoot? I really want this pictures to turn out well and I’m really concerned that they won’t (in part because I haven’t lost weight and in part because I feel like I look like a whale).
Post # 3
I’m severely underweight, and my fiance is overweight and 20lbs away from being obese… He didn’t give a damn at all about his self-image in our engagement shoots. lol And even though we are on the opposite ends of weight. I think we look perfect together.
I mean the only people who should be looking at your engagment pics anyway are people who already know what you look like. And seriously, my FI and I only sent our best pic in our Announcement/Save-The-Date. Other than my mom and MIL, and sister, and sister-in-law, (and here) nobody else has seen our other pictures.
Post # 4
@hgwells: A HUGE tip is to look up some articles for how to pose. Knowing what angles to put your hips, arms, neck, face, and the like. I have a tendency to role my shoulders forward and give myself a weird hunch and double chin when I don’t have one so looking online for ways to pose really helped! Congrats and relax! The more confident and happy you feel the better you will look in the pictures! My FI HATES HATES HATES pictures so I found the ones where he is looking at me he relaxed a lot and they look so much better
Post # 5
i’m a horrible picture taker. I always look awkward and have a weird unnatural looking smile. When we did our e-pics I tried to not think about taking the pictures. I focused on my FI and how much I love him. I tried to not think “i hope i look good right now” and instead thought to myself “i love this man and i cant wait to marry him” and other things like that. That might sound cheesy and stupid but i really think it helped. I think that helped me to look natural and our pictures turned out great. also, knowing how to position yourself will help. I recently saw a video clip from the Nate berkus show about picture taking. There were some good tips there.
And if weight is an issue for you, then do what you can between now and your photoshoot to lose weight. Eat well and exercise. Once you start slimming down I’m sure you’ll start to feel more confident and that will show in your pictures. You have time to make it happen! You may not get down to your goal weight in time for the e session but you will feel better about yourself once you start seeing results. I’ve recently started trying to slim down for my wedding and I feel better already. It’s only been a few weeks but I can see the difference already.
And most importantly, remember your FI loves you just the way you are!