Post # 1
-We weren’t planning on doing an engagement session, because it seemed like an “extra” we didn’t need, and because we don’t live in the city where we’ll be getting married next summer.
-We just booked a photog, and we’re very happy with her.
-The package we chose (surprise!) comes with an engagement session.
Now, we have a couple of options. We could do the engagement session, but it would be less than 3 weeks before the wedding, which is pretty weird. On the other hand, I’ve heard a lot of people say that the e-pics are a good chance to get to know your photographer, and honestly, I wouldn’t complain if I had a nice set of photos of us. We don’t have a camera and generally end up with very few pictures of us looking nice together.
The photographer has also offered, in lieu of the e-session, to go with my mom and I to the venue to plan out pictures, shots, etc. I think this isn’t a bad idea, but it is also something we don’t really need.
My mom suggested asking her to do a combo of the 2, which I don’t know if the photographer will agree to.
I’m worried that NOT doing the engagement photos is a waste of our money, but we’re getting a good deal on the package and the wedding pics are my priority.
What do you all think?
Post # 3
Get the engagment pics. This is the best time to get real pics of you and the FI. Most guy aren’t in to constant pics and since you don’t have anything nice of you here’s your opportunity to have some every day photos instead of you all dolled up in your wedding attire
Post # 4
Do the engagement pics. They are fun, you get to spent time with your photog and get comfortable. Also, I think that engagement pictures are nice because they are just normal pictures of you two. Of course, you’ll take pictures of the two of your in your wedding garb, but it’ll be nice to display pictures in your house that are non-wedding. We also plan to use the pictures in our reception decor somehow, like our guest book or displaying framed pictures.
Post # 5
We were in a similar situation (our choice was get epics or have the photog come and do pics at the rehearsal dinner), and I’m really happy we did epics (I think it’s nice to have good pics of ourselves NOT in wedding attire. Really, how many pictures of myself in a big ole wedding dress do I want around the house).
If aren’t excited about the epics, you might ask for rehearsal dinner coverage or print credit. I don’t see the utility of a planning session unless there is something very odd about your venue. If your photog has done a lot of weddings, chances are she’s been to the venue before, anyway.
Post # 6
@Beluga: Your photographer should be helping you plan locations and doing a walkthrough regardless. Especially if they are not familiar with the location – that’s pretty standard (at least in my area, every photog I spoke with offered that). You shouldn’t have to choose. Especially because an hour of e-pics shooting translates into multiple more hours of editing and post processing time, and a meeting would only be an hour or so. It is not a fair trade, any way you slice it!
Post # 7
Definitely do the engagement photos. First, as everyone else said, it’s nice to have regular photos. Wedding photos are nice, but you know, you only want so many of them displayed in your house. And after a while you’ll be over the wedding, and you don’t want every photo in your house from one event in a single outfit.
Second, it’s really great practice. For your photographer to get to know you guys, what you’re comfortable with, how you are with each other, your good sides, etc. And for you, so that you are comfortable with your photographer and so that you know how to act when you’re being photographed (i.e., the best pictures are when you don’t act like you’re being photographed!). I didn’t feel very uncomfortable, but my FI did and was very glad he got a practice run during the e-session.
Third, like someone else said, the planning session is not necessary. Sure, it would be nice if your photographer were familiar with your location and the lighting, etc., but a good photographer can do this with the first few minutes of being at your location. Ask the photographer — if we don’t do the planning session, what would you do? She’d probably say that she’ll just figure it out when you get there. Or maybe she’d go on her own time. But either way, there is a reason the “planning session” is not part of her standard package — it’s not necessary.
Post # 8
I would try doing some engagement pics in places that you would like to take wedding pics at your venue!! 🙂
Post # 9
I also just wanted to add that, like you, we didn’t live where we got married. We live in a city about 12 hours from my hometown. On top of that, our photographer was about 2 hours away from my hometown, so that was an added challenge in that we couldn’t do our e-session when we went back home for planning purposes. In the end, our photographer did our photos in the city where we live, and we LOVE that we have photos of us where we actually live, even though we got married in my hometown.
Post # 10
Engagement pics! I have a friend that just did hers and her wedding is also in about 3 weeks. Really doesn’t matter how close it is.
Post # 11
Thank you all so much for your advice! Engagement pics seem like the way to go. 🙂