Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2014 - The Crystal Ballroom at The Rice Hotel
Background info: So FI asked me to marry him back in December of last year just before my return home for Christmas break (talk about hard to keep secrets, right?!?). We are both college students without much cash, my parents help me out and he is fully independent and works while going to school. Currently its summer and he works 2 jobs, we both hate it.
Questions: Naturally FI wanted to know what I liked… That’s like asking me to pick my favorite pair of shoes, depends on the outfit! Orginally I wanted a plain solitaire, but had always loved antique fillagree or flower motifs. But as I feared… I have looked at too many in my excitement and impatience.
Did you lose sight of your first e-ring in love?
Did your style change from what you orginally expected?
Did/do you have ring regret? Or were you simply happy to get the ring?
Waiting: Its awful. When he asked my father for my hand (YAY!) my parents offered my grandmother’s wedding ring, but he declined because he wanted to show he can take care of me and have something that’s “ours”. I love my grandmothers ring (plus its free, besides adjustments) but I understand and love that he wants to care for me. Back on the 4th FI was acting weird and had me thinking “Today might be the day!”, plus there were SEVERAL perfect moments, atlas it was not… FI said mid-July to the end of summer and I feel like I see no light at the end of the tunnel :/ All this has me longing for my GM’s ring as I never did care about cost, plus it is worth more than we can afford till he hits the job market next spring.
Lost: If you are still with me, here are some pictures of my choices they all look nothing alike.
My grandmother’s ring (on my pinky due to chubby fingers! The other was my promise ring.)
Here is the Moissanite I thought was very orginal, its Winfred from MoissyCo.
Here is what FI liked, Cressida also from MoissyCo.
Thoughts? Were you this anxious? Did you get bumed out at one point? Thanks Bees!
Post # 3
@iDreamofJune: I have no idea how people settle on just one ring. My hubs and I got my wedding band, which I wore as an e-ring, but I now wear that on my right hand (for the sentimentality) and switch “e-rings” all the time. I have solitaires and three stones and gemstones and cz, and diamonds…you name it, I’ve got it. I switch every few months, or, with outfits, If I’m looking for a specific look.
As far as your choices, I LOVE your grandmother’s ring (the only thing I -don’t- have is heirloom jewelry, so I’m super jealous), and I’d opt for that, at least as a wedding band. My favorite from Moissyco is the Cressida. It’s less busy, and I like the wide, square prongs. Congrats,and good luck!!
Post # 4
@iDreamofJune: i liked all the rings. But I suggest you go to a store on your own and see what cut looks best on you. That is what I did, I like the round diamond, but I didn’t like the way it looked on my hand. I tried on Princess cut and Emerald, etc, didn’t care for it. I tried on rings with halos, and the halos are pretty but I felt like it was not me. Then FI suggested Cushion cut and I fell in love. I tried one on, and said that is what I want. (We didn’t go shopping together, I was just randomly trying on rings whenever I happened to be in a jewlery store).
Waiting: I waited….and waited…and waited some more. My FI said I will propose by the end of 2011. So I waited…patiently…til Nov. 19, 2011 to be exact LoL…I was a little anxious because in my head I was going through the months and I got to a point where I was like okay, its November, Thanksgigiving is next year, is he gonna torture me and make me wait til New Year’s Eve??!! LoL
I am glad I waited because it was a helluva surprise. I had no idea that he was even shopping because the whole year went by and he hadn’t talked about anything. LoL Don’t get anxious, and don’t pester him either–not saying you will!!!! But he is probably nervous as hell planning an awesome proposal!
Congrats in advance! be sure to come back and let us know how he did it!
Post # 5
I like the last moissanite the best, the one your fiance likes, but I don’t think you can go wrong with that first moissanite either. I would also take your grandmother’s ring (if it’s an option and there is no one else in line for it) to wear on days when you want something more toned down. Like you said, you are having a hard time picking something that you think you’ll want to wear every day, so get an actual engagement ring (which you probably WILL want to wear every day), and then you can use your grandmother’s ring occasionally. Kind of like wearing your wedding band alone at times when you don’t want to wear your engagement ring, whatever the circumstance.
Also my ring was made of stones that belonged to my husband’s grandmother. I custom designed the ring, and even though there were certain elements of it that I wasn’t expecting to come out the way they did and I may not have even chosen this setting exactly if I were shopping from scratch, I absolutely love it and and it’s gorgeous. Once I got that sparkle sparkle on my finger that was pretty much it for me. My ring is a halo, but with a larger halo since the stones I had to use were larger than what is usually used in a halo, and I like that it’s the halo style done in a more vintage, or non-contemporary way.
Post # 6
Congrats in advance! I totally understand what you mean with SO wanting to purchase you a ring on his own-my guy is the same way. Nevertheless, all the rings are beautiful! I find myself vacillating between rings as well! I’m currently in love with rose gold and my SO seems to be highly leaning towards it as well. We found a white sapphire/rose gold combo that is simple yet elegant at the same time, and I’m almost certain thats what he will get…just waiting at this point…lol
Anyways, I really like the Winfred, as well as your grandmother’s ring. I’m a sucker for heirlooms and vintage settings though, so I’m a bit biased 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2014 - The Crystal Ballroom at The Rice Hotel
@Daizy914: Hahaha! Oh so very true! I helped my brother plan his proposal, he ended up driving all the way to Austin from Lubbock, Texas as a surprise while she was on a business trip. Talk about surprise! So for my poor FI the heat is on! Thank you! I will try to keep track of the post, I can’t wait to post the official choice. At this point he can do no wrong… as long as there is a ring before New Years, haha.
@susanlee178: Thank you! That is definaly part of the draw to my GM’s ring, its real deal vintage! Not everyone has that or is willing to give it up 😉
@star_dust: My mom suggested having the ring reconstructed and using the diamonds to better fit our style. Was that much work? Poor fi is so busy, I’m currently waiting for him to get off work!
@ddstobe2015: Its all good, I lean the vinatage way too haha. I am glad you’ve picked you ring, it sounds goreous! Rose gold is so beautiful. Post a picture when you are finally sporting it! Until then… we wait 🙂 lol
Post # 8
@iDreamofJune: You have family in Lubbock!? That’s where I live! Weird!
Post # 9
@iDreamofJune: It was definitely more hassle than just picking out a setting straight from a store but it was definitely worth it. We got one stone from an old yellow gold ring from my husband’s grandmother and 8 stones from a necklace that had these stones in rows of 4 around the necklace. (Stone from the ring is my main stone and the stones from the necklace make up my halo, plus two more that we got to match it to close the halo.) My mother-in-law still has a bunch more stones for her other daughters and used some in her engagement ring that she just had made. So we had to take these stones from all over and the jeweler had to extract them. I went with my mother to the jeweler (had to take off 1/2 day of work but I didn’t want my mom desiging it for me so it was worth it) and explained to the jeweler what I wanted. I’m sure he made a wax mold but I never saw it. My mom picked up the ring when it was ready and my jaw dropped when I saw it for the first time! I was so surprised by how big and beautiful it looked. I couldn’t believe it was actually mine! I’m very happy with the way it turned out and I love having a custom creation. I get a lot of compliments, even from people who probably don’t love the setting itself, but love how unique it is. If you want to incorporate your grandmother’s stones, or just use those without getting something else, then I would definitely look into different styles and see what your options are. It doesn’t hurt to keep the option open and see whether you want to go custom.
Post # 10
I thought I wanted a solitaire too bc I just couldn’t decide what kind of setting I really wanted that would squeeze in our budget. I got the solitaire and tried so hard to love it but I didn’t. We went ring shopping again and a sales lady pressured us into going home with a ring the same day we started looking I returned it a week later, it was a 1/2 princess in a delicate halo setting.Major ering regret…I did like it but it was an i1 I color and for the money I felt like if I kept it I would feel ripped off and want to upgrade eventually. So we started looking again and one day I decided to look on craigslist where lo and behold! I found my ring! in our original budget!(before getting talked into spending double by the sales people) so I think it is totally normal to change your mind! Don’t feel guilty if you realize you don’t love it as much as you originally thought you did. most guys have no problem with exchanging or returning as long as you get what you love! Which both of the rings you picked are gorgeous! Can’t wait to see what he chose 🙂
Post # 11
I agree with the PP that recommend you go to a local jeweler to try on different cuts and styles. Also I love your gma’s ring and hope you use it for your wedding band.
Post # 12
@iDreamofJune: I like the MCo one you picked!
Post # 13
I like the one you picked cause it looks vintage to me and I think would look nice next to your grandmother’s ring.
I knew I wanted a halo butI changed ring designs three times but in the end he gave me the one I originally fell in love with and I still love it!
I think wondering about rings is common. I mean its a big purchase and you want to love it.
Post # 14
@Susanlee178: I LOVE that you have different rings that you wear! That is such a great idea. I think more brides and brides-to-be should be open to switching rings and different looks and combinations. Also, you are such a lucky girl to be able to own so many pieces! 🙂
@iDreamofJune: I love your Moissy choice of Winfred. Its unique, vintage, and gorgeous. Just from reading this post, I feel like it is really your style. Your FI’s moissy choice is also very pretty, and you can’t go wrong with either one! But its YOUR ring and you should have what you want. I also think it would go so nicely with your grandmother’s ring, if you wanted to wear both rings as an e-ring/wedding ring set.
Is your SO still able to give you your grandmother’s ring? I hope the offer still stands, because it is a GORGEOUS ring and i love the sentimental value of it. You are lucky to be able to own an heirloom! He can still get you your Moissy ring… if not in the near future, then maybe in a year or so? At least you will have your GM’s beautiful heirloom to wear.
You should still shop around and go to different jewelry stores and try on different rings (just browse around) either with your SO, or with your girlfriends. For me, I’ve found that it is important to physically try on rings because you never really know what the ring will look like, or if you really like it, until its on your finger. That way, at least you can get a feel for what looks good, what you really like, and what is comfortable on your hand.
Congrats in adavance… and keep us all posted!!! 🙂 I’m curious to know what you both will decide!!
Post # 16
- Wedding: May 2014 - The Crystal Ballroom at The Rice Hotel
So here is the update: I talked with FI about being unsure with the e-ring of choice so we sat down and looked together. After browsing he suggested this (sorry if its massive)…
And I am in love all over again! On the advise of SIL and @NovaRising, and the PP before that we went and broswed rings. No lie I picked on out that look extremely similar! Y’all are the best. This is my ring. … Not really, but hopeflly soon! FI knows 🙂
@Susanlee178: My family and I are actualy native Houstonians. However my brother and I both moved to Lubbock for school, ironically we both fell in love, are getting married, and no longer in school. lol! I will be returning at some point, assuming we don’t move for FI’s job.
Thank you ladies! I always apprecaite y’all’s input, it honestly makes me feel better! I’ll post once FI pops 🙂
*Note* For any future inquires: This ring is the Cessily from MCo under their vintage collection, it features diamond or blue saphire baguette diamonds on either side of the moissy. Its lovely IMO 🙂