- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
So, FI and I recently became engaged, just about 2 weeks ago. I have been on Cloud 9 and attempting to not stress about wedding planning, but getting ideas together, etc. I digress.
I may be biased, but I think my ring is so lovely. The center stone is just under 2 carats, which I know is typically considered on the larger end. Most comments have been something along the lines of ‘Congrats!’ and then saying the ring is gorgeous, one of my friends even said “Now THAT was worth waiting for!” haha 🙂 I don’t expect the compliments but they’re nice to hear, and FI did an amazing job and worked really hard for it because he said he wanted to give me something that other guys would easily see, hahaha!
Anyway, he’s got a group of guy friends with wives/fiances, and one of the wives and I were chatting the first night they all saw the ring. She said congratulations, looked at the ring, asked to try it on (which honestly doesn’t bother me, I grew up trying on my mom’s ring! Sparkly love!), asked me the stats of it (I only know it’s just under 2 carats… and bc FI was so excited about it he blurted it out a few moments after I put it on my finger, haha) and IMMEDIATELY SAYS “I’m going to talk to DH about an upgrade. He’s making WAY more money now and I think it’s time.” They’ve been married less than a year. I was super happy my FI wasn’t in the room! There were a few awkward moments and I’m sure I had a ‘deer in the headlights’ look on my face. I just said ‘Oh.. yeah’. Because… what do you say to that?!
Now, ok. I know it’s not that big of a deal but the entire night I had to hear about how they’re doing SO well and totally financially comfortable and yada yada… I know that there will be comments here and there, but come on! I guess I should be flattered but… it just kind of bothered me. A little while after that, she asks when we’re going to start looking for a house. I replied, I already have a house….? She says, yes but aren’t you two going to move once you’re married? Still confused, I replied that ‘Well, I own the house I live in…’ And she goes but you aren’t moving to a new house? So I said, ‘yes, we would but in a few years once we can save a downpayment to move to something more suited for kids’. She acted like this was crazy, and I didn’t think it was strange at ALL until she said something. Opinions on this? I mean… it wouldn’t be any different than if HE owned a house that I was moving into. Part of the reason he was able to get the ring he chose was because we didn’t need to save for a downpayment for a home once we’re married. My home is not shabby by any means, 3 bedrooms and super cute if I might say so myself, haha! The area is a little crammed so we’d ideally want something with a bit bigger backyard and away from the crowds, but it’s totally liveable! The strange thing is, she’s a really sweet girl and we get along great normally… she’s a little braggy at times, but nothing crazy. I just don’t know where the weird comments are coming from.
Thoughts bees!? Any comments that you’ve gotten that threw you off balance?