Post # 1
Does anyone else feel like their e-ring doesn’t ever get noticed? I have been engaged since January (it is now October!) and I feel like I have only received compliments on my ring a handful of times (not including family). And I think I have only gotten those because I work in retail and my hands are constantly in front of people’s faces while I am on the register. And even then, they usually only ask “when is the wedding?”
I know my ring isn’t huge, in-your-face, and blinged out…but it is a half-carat diamond center and has a pave band (so it is faaaairly sparkly in the right light). It isn’t like you can totally miss the fact that I have a ring on my finger. And then I will work with people for a few weeks and when I mention my FI, they say “I didn’t know you were engaged!” And I just look down at my hand, like uuuh what??
Has anyone else encountered this? I just don’t know if people are that oblivious, if my ring is actually just that unnoticable, or if they just don’t like it sooo they don’t say anything either way.
It doesn’t change the way I feel about my ring. I just thought once I had the ring on my finger, it would get a little more attention than it does.
Post # 3
People are just oblivious like that. Don’t take it personally. My ring’s gotten exactly one comment in the past year.
Post # 4
@rosie.jonesy.9: I honestly think most people don’t care about other people’s rings. I NEVER comment on another persons ring, mostly because I don’t care, not because I don’t think it’s pretty
Post # 5
I always feel guilty complimenting rings not on WB! My ring is pretty big, so I feel like people don’t think I’m being serious!
Post # 6
@rosie.jonesy.9: more importantly, why does it matter? An engagement ring is a symbol between you and your SO, not meant to be something you wear for attention.
FWIW, I would never comment on a strangers ring even if it was huge and I loved it. Just not my style And honestly I don’t care about a strangers wedding so why would I ask about it?
Post # 7
Why would a random person or acquaintance say anything? I guess I don’t understand why you would expect random compliments… do you typically comment on people’s rings? Because I never have. I think what you’re experiencing is very normal.
Post # 8
Don’t take it personally, I don’t notice anyone’s rig unless they point it out to me an I don’t expect others to notice mine
Post # 9
@Ninteenthchance: +1. If your not an acquaintance of mine I really couldn’t care less about asking a stranger about their wedding plans out of the blue.
Post # 10
I never comment on someone’s ring unless I’m their friend or they point out that they’re engaged.
Post # 11
I’ve never commented on someone’s ring unless I’m very close to them. People are typically A) completely oblivious or B) noticing your ring but keeping comments to themselves. Don’t let it bother you. I think after being on this site too much people forget that out in the “real word”, people aren’t as eager to see or talk about another persons ring or wedding.
Post # 12
@rosie.jonesy.9: the point of a ring isn’t to get compliments. The only time I comment is if it is a friend or if I am at work trying to ingratiate myself to someone (I have a job like a pharma rep so I have to make nice with strangers very often.). If you wanted compliments you should have gone with something less common than a solitaire/pave setting.
Post # 13
Hardly anyone ever brings up my ring. I, however, still stare at it all the time and it’s been over 2 years at this point! Don’t take it personally!
Post # 14
i get WAY more compliments on nail polish colors than my ring. Nice strangers don’t go poking around in your personal life.
Post # 15
i notice rings, i always have. but i don’t compliment/comment unless i know the person. i think it’s intrusive to ask questions about something you don’t know.
what if they were a recent widow? or it’s just a ring that was passed down to them? i don’t want to touch on touchy subjects, you know?
Post # 16
You have to understand that nobody really cares about other people’s rings, especially not that of a stranger. You said you work at a register right? Do you know what I’m thinking when I’m paying for something? “Gosh, I hope I didn’t forget anything. Am I sure I really need this? Where did I put my keys? I really need to clean out my wallet, there’s so much crap in here. Where is my phone? Should I pay cash or use my debit card?”
Do you know what thought never goes through my head? “I wonder what the ring of the person ringing up my purchase looks like. Let me check.”
Just as you’re concerned about yourself and your ring, every other person out there is involved in their own lives & thoughts. Don’t take it personally.