Post # 1
So, my boyfriend has allowed (nay, encouraged) me to be a part of the ring decision. We already have my wedding band, as it’s my promise ring. So we tried to match the engagement ring to the band.
Love my ring.. 🙂
However, now I’m having a super tough time deciding on my engagement ring. We actually bought one: (without the stone, mind you. We have the setting and we’re still up in the air on the center stone.. probably CZ for now if it’s up to me! I want oval but smaller than pictured.)
But I’m starting to feel a little panicky about it. I love it. It has all the things I like in a ring: sapphire sidestones, split shank, vintage-y details, unique, and fits snugly with my promise ring. But my boyfriend keeps asking if I’m 100% sure about it because “you’ll be wearing it for the rest of your life. Will you still love it 10, 20, 50 years from now?” It makes me all nervous. Especially because I just fished out a ring I got about a year ago from a trade in from an ex’s gift, and I found I don’t love it as much as I did. And my boyfriend when I traded it in didn’t like the one I chose that much. And now, I’m not as big a fan as I was!! So I’m worried the same thing will happen with my engagement ring. I talked to him about this and he just said “we’ll do whatever you wanna do, I just want you to love it.” Aww. But that’s so much freakin’ pressure!
I think it’s just because there are so many options I’d be equally happy with, and HOW DO I KNOW which one I’ll love in the future, too!? Will it change, too, because I’ll have that emotional attachment to this one, not any others? I think I’m just overwhelmed.
I guess my main question (if you managed to weed through all of that and get here) is did anybody else go through this same indecisiveness? Or have any advice that’s going to make me chill out just a tad?
Post # 3
I think the ring you chose is lovely!! I love how it matches your promise ring (we also picked my e-ring because it matches my promise ring well, although I wear them on separate hands). Do you have the setting already? Perhaps wear it around the house even without a center stone to see how you like it?
Post # 4
Yes, absolutely. I did end up changing rings, which is okay too. I have to say for the record, I adore the picture e-ring! It is STUNNING and I think will be something you will love for a long long time.
Post # 5
I think its nice, with a sort of timelessness about it because it already looks vintage. If my Fiance said those things to me, about loving it in 10 or 20 years, I would just say “Hey, if I grow out of it, we’ll just upgrade me later!” lol. He’s a sport though. Don’t write off an upgrade or a change- the thing about diamonds is…they shrink ;o)
Post # 6
Ahh thanks guys. I already feel better. And you’re right. IF in 10-20 years I get tired of it, hey! It’s something to pass down if I upgrade, haha. I really love it! I just needed some coddling because it feels like a pretty ginormous decision!
Post # 7
I think if you love it now, that’s all you can go by. There’s no way to guess what you will or will not like 10, 20, 50 years down the road. If you are wearing it everyday, I think you’ll continue to love it b/c it becomes part of you (get used to seeing it) and b/c of what it represents. It’s a little different than fishing a miscellaneous ring out from a year ago and loving it again, there just isnt that attachment.
Post # 8
I have racked up a number of rings in the last few years for a variety of reasons…when we were looking at having a ring made, we looked through my favorites and found common elements. I sure have a lot of white gold rings with oval center stones, but I know I like that style!
Post # 9
Go for it! I think the sentimental value that comes along with it will keep you loving it for a long time!
Post # 10
@Mrs. Puffin: It will be fine. NONE of us know if we will love our rings in many, many years. I do think that the symbolism will help you develop more of an attachment, but if you ever wanted to change the center stone, upgrade, downgrade, whatever….it’s not a big deal in my opinion. Heck, we’ve already changed my center stone during our engagement. haha. It’s the symbol that counts. 🙂 All will be fine.
Post # 11
I really love the setting you have pictured above. Although my tastes do change somewhat as I get older, my instinct is that I will probably love my ering MORE down the road as time goes by, because in 10,20,30 years it will signify so much more & have alot more history attached to it 🙂