Post # 1
I’ve posted about my ring before.
My FI and I picked it out together. I loved it in the store. But now that I have it home, and I’ve been wearing it for a while, I can’t help but have some regrets.
It’s a cluster style ring. I didn’t really pay attention to the fact that it wasn’t a larger center stone before because I was just so excited to have a ring. Now, though, I have a lot of ring envy as others become engaged around me.
Now I know I should not compare my ring to others’, and it is the symbol of what the ring means the most, the ring itself is just a material item representing our commitment.
But still – I want a larger center stone, instead of the cluster. It’s a 7/8 TCW ring. I’m within the 60 days to return it and pick something else. Our budget was $1,500 and I don’t see anything I like as much in my price range. We *could* go to $2k (if it included a wedding band). However, my FI doesn’t want to go pick another ring. He thinks we should just stick with the one I have, and maybe upgrade in 5 years. My biggest issue is the top looks like fake sparkles sometimes, not real diamonds.
I’m very torn. So either I need some ring love, or some advise on how to encourage my FI to go ring shopping again.
Post # 3
@Daenaria727: am not really sure what you mean by “fake sparkles” since its all real diamonds and very pretty. However, you are the one wearing it, if you don’t see anything you like in that store, can you get your money back and go somewhere else?
Post # 4
First of all, that ring IS beautiful. I do understand not wanting a cluster though. The thing you have to consider is, how important is finger coverage to you? Switching to a single center stone would likely reduce the finger coverage with that price point, especially if you stick with a more expensive setting. If you are open to another gemstone, such as moissy, you could have the larger center stone and stick in your price point. I think your best bet would be to go to a store and try on a ring in your budget with one center stone and compare it to your current ring. You’ll learn if you prefer the finger coverage or the look of the single center. Hope everything works out!
Post # 5
@gemgirl6: You know, I go back and forth so much. I’m wondering if my fears are all just from me comparing my ring to someone else’s.
Because as I sit here typing, looking at my ring – it is very pretty. I don’t want anyone to think it is cheap looking, or inexpensive. To me, $1,500 is a lot to spend on jewlery. Especially considering we have a baby, are paying for our own wedding, and I’m still in school (I’m 27 and making a career change).
Post # 6
@SarahTee: +1, I was going to add that 🙂
@Daenaria727: OP, if you are ok with a man made simulant then moissanite is a great option. You could get the larger center you want at a fraction of the cost of a larger single diamond. Am not a fan of simulants moissy/cz/asha myself but they are very budget friendly…. Another idea is a genuine gemstone such as a sapphire (many colors) or morganite (pink) or something else. Many bees here have simulants or gemstones as their engagement rings.
We posted at the same time-your diamond ring does not appear cheap. at all…
Post # 7
Maybe it looks weird to you because the cluster is made of rounds, but its in a square setting? Thats whats throwing me off about it, at least. I’ve never seen a cluster done that way.
Post # 8
@Daenaria727: I have to say that although I am not at all shy about declaring that I’m one of the rarer Bees who really likes cluster rings, yours is PARTICULARLY pretty. I love the shape of the cluster, and how the cluster stones aren’t all the same size, and the way the band is shaped is sooooo feminine and sparkly. I would urge you to consider keeping it; I strongly suspect that in time you will love it more and more, and even decide you don’t want to upgrade when the opportunity arises. You sound to me like a Bee who can see romance in the practical, and I think that’s a special quality to have.
Post # 9
Your ring is pretty. Your FI does not want to change it. I think you need to let this go.
ETA: It’s definitely comparison that’s the problem here. I never knew people looked down on cluster rings until this website. It’s not representative of the real world, and even if it was, you loved your ring at first, so clearly the ring itself is not the issue.
Post # 10
I sometimes get ring regret.. and this is what I do.
I wear another ring that I own.. just any random ring out of my jewelry box.. or even purchase a cheap stand in ring… and wear it in place of my e-ring.
In a few days, I normally start to miss my e-ring, put it back on and immediately remember why I got it!
If this works for you.. it means that you are getting a little diamond crazed with all of the engagements/rings on the bee! It’s easy to get caught up in the ring craze when there are SO many beautiful rings out there.
If it doesn’t work for you, then you know you don’t really love your ring, and you can start looking for a new one.
Post # 11
comparison is the thief of joy, isn’t that what they say? I would not let what others have determine if you like your own ring or not.
Post # 12
Your ring is super pretty! My best friend has a cluster ring and I have always admired its beauty. Its good to be unique!
Post # 13
@Daenaria727: If you’re within the 60 days to return it, then return it. You don’t want to be stuck with it. You would probably be only to sell it for $300 or less. So, it’s better to trade it in and get that $1,500 store credit than be stuck with a ring you won’t get much for if you sell it.
Can you return it for a full refund? That’d be a better solution.
if you could get you money back, I’d get a ring at a pawn shop or on eBay. $1500 goes a lot farther in those places vs a retail store.
Post # 14
@Daenaria727: I love cluster rings, and I think yours is pretty, delicate, and really interesting to look at. Moreso especially when compared to usual solitares or rings with larger centre stones. The advice of a PP to wear a stand in is a good one if you have moments when you’re not sure. But I don’t think you need to swap that beautiful, interesting piece for a ring that everyone else has.
Post # 15
I’m normally not that into cluster rings (although I don’t look down at them at all – just not my style), but yours is one that I myself would like! It’s extremely gorgeous!
I have a sinking feeling that if you decide to go through the return and go diamond route, the finger coverage loss is going to hit you hard. You could go moissy/gemstone, though.
I think being on the boards is possibly messing with you. Honestly aask yourself if you love this ring or not – and don’t answer that with feelings of comparison in the back of your mind.
Post # 16
@Daenaria727: I think its VERY pretty, I have a good friend with a similar ring but in a cushion setting and she adores it but I think if your already second guessing it and your still in the return window I would def exchange it or get a full refund. We did that with my first ring it was way overpriced at a mall jewelry store and I was still within the 30 days and I did think the ring was gorgeous but I just felt like I could get my true dream ring for a better price and I did I got on craigslist and found my ring for less than we had paid at the mall store yet it had better specs and was bigger nicer and worth more. And I’ve never thought twice about my ring again 🙂 go with your gut girl!!!