- 5 years ago
Hello fellow bees! I need some opinions…
My current backstory, my SO and I have been together for 10 years (since HS) and we’ve started talking about the next step which is getting engaged then married. So my SO and I have been going out to different jewelry stores to find an e-ring that I absolutely love. And once I find the ring and figure out my ring size, the rest will be up to him. After going to at least 4 different stores, I started to get discouraged b/c I wasn’t getting excited about any of the rings that I’ve tried on. I always figured that when you find THE ring that you would just COMPLETELY FALL IN LOVE with it right?! Well I haven’t felt that way and was losing all excitement about finding one. But one night, before going out to dinner, we went to one jewelry store and while perusing through their collection, my SO found one that he wanted me to try on. So I did and I FELL IN LOVE WITH IT COMPLETELY .
But when we got home that night, I couldn’t shake off this feeling that I was having with the e-ring. I knew it looked familiar. I looked through some wedding pictures that I stood up in 3 years ago and it was the exact ring she had . To be clear, the only reason I was in this girl’s wedding was b/c her husband asked my SO to be a groomsman. She already had another girl coupled up with him but when that girl backed out, she called and asked if I wanted to take her place in the wedding party. So I accepted since I would be coupled up with SO anyways. The girl and I are not close and I haven’t seen her since her wedding. We don’t have lunch or text each other. That has been the extent of our relationship. But I know I would still be seeing her around in the future since our SO’s work together.
So, my dilemma is… would it be weird to get the same ring as her? Does it even really matter? I know that if my SO got me that e-ring, it would still be special b/c he found it and picked it out for me. He doesn’t want me to look for anymore rings either b/c he knows how much I LOVED that ring.
He thinks I’m overthinking this whole thing which might be true b/c I have the tendency to but idk, other avenues of thinking would also help.