- 3 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
My fiancé and I invited our guests to our wedding using email and posted all the relevant info on a wedding website. So it’s a high tech wedding!
We considered the e-vite decision carefully, and although it wasn’t our first choice, we decided it was the best way forward. It helped us, and it made attending, making travel plans and replying much convenient for our guests.
The above said, I had hoped to still to send paper invitations as well. They are a lovely sentimental keepsake, the wedding is a formal affair, and I thought our departure from ettiquette might upset the older generation so it could be a way to finesse things.
What surprised me is how much everyone just loved the e-vites, including our grandparents and my 92 year old great aunt. Except for one or two guests who had other issues, the vast majority replied very quickly and were simply grateful that we made it so easy for them.
My problem is that now everyone has been invited and has so kindly sent their reply, the paper invitations feel redundant 🙁 Also, due to the timing of the wedding and international post, any paper invitations would arrive about four weeks before the wedding (another reason why we had to go for e-vites in the first place).
I know that it’s a nice problem to have as most brides are stressed about getting rsvps back, but I still need some help here!
Is there anything I can do? The website where I set up the email invitations can create a paper card in the same style, so I was thinking perhaps to simply send a card saying ‘glad you’re coming to the wedding’ and pop in an insert card directing people to the website for accommodation and travel info.
This might be nice, but then you don’t get the invitation keepsake. I guess I could just say I’ve enclosed a paper copy of their invitation? What do you think? Has anyone ever seen or done anything like this? If I send a card, what should I say in it?
I guess it might help to know what happened in the olden days. So a bride’s mother sent a paper wedding invitation, a guest sent a card or letter in response, and then what happenened? Did the bride’s mother then write another letter or card to say thanks and we’re glad you can make it? I guess this is what my card would effectively be?
Thanks Bees x