Post # 1
I’ve gotten a couple of early wedding gifts this week, and I’m not sure if I’m supposed to open them and send thank you notes now or after the wedding. My mom was apalled at the thought that I’d open my gifts before the wedding….but one of my gifts came in the form of a check they included with their RSVP card. Would seem really weird to cash the check but not acknowedge it…
Post # 3
I would send the thank yous right away. We did that so guests would know that we received the gifts and also to help us so that we don’t forget to thank them after the wedding. It is easier to keep up with thank yous if you start right away instead of waiting until after the wedding is over.
Post # 4
I have a similar issue, especially since I haven’t ordered the thank you cards yet!!! I am sending a less formal thank you via email (lucky the people that gifted early are regular email correspondence) and a formal thank you card as soon as the come in!
Post # 5
I suggest phone call now, thank you note after wedding.
Post # 6
I have the same issue as @camofojo-bro – my mom is making our thank you notes and isn’t even close to finishing them. I guess I could send different ones to the people who send early gifts, or maybe just use the leftover thank yous from our shower last month. Or do the email now/thank you later thing (which won’t work for a couple of older guests who don’t have email addresses….)
Post # 7
I ran into this issue too. We sent thank you notes for the checks, but not for the gifts. We opened them as they arrived to make sure there weren’t any damages that needed to be exchanged.
Since our wedding was small we were able to talk to people and tell them we recieved the gifts, then send the actual notes after the wedding. We drafted most of the notes ahead of time so that we could write them up quickly after the wedding and sent them 2 weeks after the big day.
Keep a list of the gifts you recieve and who you have sent a note to! It’s so easy to forget if you wrote a note or not, especially if you start sending notes before the wedding.