- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Our wedding is being held in the bottom of the South Island of New Zealand, however most of my fiance’s family and old friends live in the top of the North Island. I also have a few family members of my own who live in Australia, USA and UK, all of whom I would like to send an invite to but don’t really expect them to fly all the way over here for the wedding.
Our plan is to send invites to those people living outside of the South Island of New Zealand early, with an early RSVP. Knowing that there is likely to be a very high decline rate in this group we will then adjust our guest list, (move people from the B to the A list depending on the number of declines.)
The reason for all this is simply becuase we have a large number of people whom we would love to invite but we just can’t afford it, but at the same time we don’t want to assume the long distance family and friends are going to decline.
This is similar to what my finace’s brother did for their wedding a year ago, however they didn’t send out save the dates, and I really want to have save the dates.
So here’s the problem – who do we send save the dates to? Just the current A list – even though this list will change? What happens when some people assume their not invited becuase they don’t get a Save the date but in the end they get an invite.
Should we just ditch save the dates? or maybe just have one set of invites?