Post # 1
My shower is in two and a half weeks and FI and I received our first early gift. Here are the details and the dilemna:
We live in Arizona. The gift was sent to our house.
The gift was sent directly from Target where we are registered, so I don’t know who sent it without opening it.
The shower is in Wisconsin. I am flying out during my Spring Break (I’m a teacher) at the end of next week and the shower is while I am home. It is the last time I’ll be home before the wedding. So bringing the gift to open at the shower is a no-go.
What do I do with it? Do I open in now and send a thank you right now? Do I open it now, mention the gift during the opening at my shower, and then send a thank you with the rest of them? Do I wait to open it after the shower, back at home?
My mom mentioned that maybe FI, who is staying back in AZ, could open it over skype while I open gifts at the shower so that the guest could see it opened. It will be just females at the shower.
So what is the etiquette on this?
Post # 3
I think you open it now, mention it/thank the person for it at your shower- if they’re attending, and send a thank you card within the next few weeks. You don’t need to drag the gift out with you on your flight- that’s ridic.
Post # 4
When we got early gifts, we opened them and promptly sent a thank you. I just assumed the person would want to make sure the gift got there.
Post # 5
Open it now and send the thank you now.
Post # 6
@LauraHF: open the box, if it’s wrapped, leave it,a nd read the card, send a thank you, open at shower.
if it’s not wrapped, read the card, send a thank you, leave gift at home.
Post # 7
Agree with PP’s open it now, send the Thank You and mention it at the shower.
Post # 8
@LauraHF: I am in the same situation. We have been opening the gifts and writing/mailing the thank you notes the day they arrive. I’m trying to make mental notes to thank people individually as I see them at the shower. Do not wait to open and/or write your notes…people want to know that they’ve been received.
Post # 9
We opened early gifts and sent thank yous right away
Post # 10
Personally I would have thought to open it. My FSIL is throwing me a shower when we go visit FI’s family in May. We live in a different state so gifts will have to be shipped and FSIL told me, “you can’t open them in advance!’ So…I guess you aren’t really supposed to but then what else do you do?! Not acknowledge it until way later?? I still think I should open them…
Post # 11
@LauraHF: Why wouldn’t you open it now?
The opening of gifts at a shower is a dull activity. For heaven’s sake don’t add one more to the mix on Skype.
Post # 12
I say open now, mention it at the shower, and send a thank you with the rest of your Shower thank yous
Post # 13
It’s fine to open now and send a thank you. It’s possible that they cannot make it to your shower so they wanted to send you something in advance. If you see them at your shower, kindly thank them again in person.