Post # 1
I just wanted to write about my experience in case anyone else goes through what I just have.
I have very long irregular cycles and my last period started on 29th April, and I conceived around the 8th July (I was sure of this sue to my charting, constant POASing, knowing my own body etc). However, the doctor and midwives basically did not believe me and were telling me I was probably more like 11 or 12 weeks pregnant! So they sent me for an ultrasound to date my pregnancy. They sent me to the scanning dept for nuchal scans not early scans despite me telling them I was only 3-4 weeks past conception at the time. The whole experience was upsetting as they had to switch screen etc from nuchal to early and I was in the wrong screening dept etc etc. My husband had taken a half day off work to come with me and thank god he was there to support me, as it was so early on they could not find a heartbeat. They described this very negatively like there was likely to be a serious problem, and I spent a week crying, worrying and hardly sleeping – stress the baby and we didn’t need.
Having had another scan this morning it shows the heartbeart and that I am even earlier than they thought last week 🙂
But I just wanted to warn bees like me, a) make sure the medical profesionals understand about your long & irregular cycles, b) if you do have an early US try to have it after the heartbeat is likely to be there (7 weeks), c) try not to panic if it is not detected as it might just be too early.
I hope none of you ladies go through this. Thanks for reading.
Post # 3
I am so happy that everything worked out ok! Thank you for that information. Did you ever try to regaulate your cycles with medication or just stick to charting?
I hope you have a healthy and happy 9 mths!! I was stalking the march mommies to check on you!
Post # 4
@Mrsluckywife: So glad to hear all is well. I have been wondering about you after stalking the March babies board.
@MrsStrawberry24: What’s going on with your situation? I have been praying for you. Hope all is well and that you update the Hive if/when you feel like it.
Post # 5
@hergreenapples: I just updated my post. We did another beta monday and it was negative. We are a little disappointed but at least I have answers. We are not sure what happend with those pregnacy test but i threw them all out. My new doctor is amazing and we have a clear cut plan! Will prob start clomid next cycle.
Thank you so so so much for your prayers… I really don’t think you guys know how much that meant to me and helped me get through this.
Post # 6
@MrsStrawberry24: Aw thank you so much sweetheart. I was never on any medication, was just waiting it out and charting so I could show the docs what was happening.
I’m glad to hear that you got your answers, and sorry it turned out to be negative this time. It must have been such an emotional rollercoaster for you hon! I can’t imagine what you went through not knowing what was happening. TTC is so confusing sometimes isn’t it? Best of luck with the clomid and I’ll follow to the TTC boards to cheer you on xox
@hergreenapples: Thank you lovely, that means a lot to me 🙂
Post # 7
@Mrsluckywife: Excellent post 🙂 I often wondered how I would go about this if getting a BFP as I also have long/irregular cycles. My last period was July 7th, but didn’t O until July 30 (CD26). If we were to get a BFP this cycle I wondered how the doctors would act (exactly what you went through, is what I suspect would totally happen). Is there something about charting that doctors don’t like to “believe” or accept? Do they think they know better? I can’t imagine all the stress you went through, when deep down I bet you knew everything was going okay, but they just made things worse.
Thank you for your post. I will be making sure my dr is well aware when we one day get our BFP that I want to go off of where I think we are vs where they think we would be based on LMP.
Glad you saw the little heartbeat, happy and health 9 months, and CONGRATS!
Post # 8
I’m glad this had a happy ending, but sorry it was so stressful! I also wonder why doctors are so distrustful of charting. When you are seeking fertility treatments, don’t they have you chart to make sure you are timing things right? Then why wouldn’t they look at your chart and believe you, or at least, go in with the assumption that you weren’t wrong, and go from there?
This is a good post and will hopefully save other people some stress!
Post # 9
@StaceyA: Yeah, so far both my doctor and the nurse in my doctor’s office have ignored me when I’ve told them that my EDD should be later than it is because I O’d on CD18 not CD14. I even showed them my chart and they totally ignored it. Please God, let me get into a midwifery practice soon!
Post # 10
great post, and so happy for you that it turned out okay!!
i had a similar experience….i also have very irregular periods, hadn’t had one since last fall…early May i started getting very strong PMS symptoms and just thought my period was finally going to arrive soon…2 wks past by and i still had symptoms but no period….a google search made me realize that i could be pregnant so i bought a test and it was positive…so i called my ob/gyn and had an apt with her, told her i have very irregular periods but we weren’t charting so i had no idea how far along i was….she gave me referral to get a dating u/s and when i went the tech couldn’t find anything externally….my heart dropped when she said that….so she went internally and she was able to find the sac and mentioned she saw the yolk sac too but that it seemed way to early to tell how far along i was, she estimated i was 3-4 wks….
i left there happy to know there was at least something in there but very worried that it was soooo early that i could miscarry, etc….it was def nervewrecking!
but i’m 16 wks now, n my last apt, LO had a strong heartbeat so hopefully everythings progressing along good in there lol 🙂
Post # 11
@Mrsluckywife: I am SO glad to hear everything IS ok and finally your medical team understands you!
I had a slightly similiar experience. My cycles were INSANE so there was no way of telling how pregnant I was by LMP. I of course knew because I was religiously OPKing and EWCM checking and BDing. SO, I knew I was about 8.5weeks during my 1st u/s. Of course they were like…”Nope you’re more like 6w based on LMP which is what we go by”. Of course when they show me baby and say “he’s only 6w!” I freeeeeakk out because I am 8+w. Well, luckily that u/s picture + bloodwork was enough for my OB to get confused and she sent me in for another at 9w…and low and behold….I am 9 w, like I told them 100 times.
Now I am 31w exactly and he is measuring….31w exactly!
Post # 12
I always had irregular cycles before BCPs, so when I went off I started charting. I ended up getting pregnant on CD108 of my cycle. My doctors office (family practice) didn’t believe me when I said I was only around 4 weeks, but did the bloodwork and recommended a ob or midwife.
The practice I picked actually had me talk to a nurse, as when I told them the LMP, I would have been around 18 weeks. Once I talked to a nurse, she realized I was charting and wasn’t that far and took it all into account. If you have irregular cycles and are charting, make sure you find a doctor that is willing to listen. They waited until I would have been around 7-8 weeks based on my ovulation date to get me in for a ultrasound and I was measuring 1 day off that ovulation date. They never once questioned my charting or anything.
Now my family practice didn’t even want to think about the charting and just blew it off. When I went hunting for someone, I made sure that they were going to understand charting and not jump into conclusions that I’m 18 weeks along.
Post # 13
Thank you so much everyone for your comments, I’m really glad you found the post useful. Sorry to hear others have been though similar situations.
I definitely think the medical profesionals I have dealt with so far have been mistrusting of charting or at least not interested in hearing about my charts, but it is strange because they trust people with regular cycles who tell them their last menstrual period date, however, when you go in there with an irregular cycle they seem to mistrsust you..the one person who knows your body and cycle best is yourself.
I have learnt to try and be better at asserting myself in this whole pregnancy process and not let myself be patronized and treated like I don’t know what’s happening when it’s my body.
I had a feeling deep down the baby was ok but they did manage to scare me.
Thanks all 🙂 x
Post # 14
Thanks for the story. I have irregular cycles too so I will keep that in mind!
Post # 15
@Mrsluckywife: Thank you for sharing. I am sorry that you went through such stress and am happy to hear all things worked out ok. Your story gives me hope as I have long cycles too and hope I will be able to concieve soon. Best of luck xx
Post # 16
@Sea_bass: Hi there, ah thank you so much 🙂 That is sweet and I’m so glad I can give you hope. It is definitely possible! I was still ovulating despite the missing periods. Remind me are you charting? I hope you get your BFP soon.
@mrs.stormylove:Glad I could help 🙂