Early wedding stresses. :(

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Welcome to wedding planning!! Since FaceBook is a common way of communication between my family, his family, friends, ect. I finally posted one day something to the effect:

“(something about all this stress and questions and judgements) but I really just don’t care and May 20th is going to be the best day of my life because I will marry my best friend. And I will plan the cake and the chairs but in the end it really doesn’t matter!”

You know what? Alot of them layed off..

Post # 4
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42538 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You can’t control what they ask, but you can control how you respond.

Stop letting it bother you. Start looking upon their interest as a sign that they care about you.

“You’ll be the first to know when we decide that.”

“Thanks for your concern but we’ve got that covered.”

Post # 5
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945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Savannah, GA

I have 15 months until my wedding and every single time I see my future-in-laws the first things they ask are “Have you picked out a dress?” and “What colors are your bridesmaid dresses.”  Even if I last saw them two weeks ago.  And whenever I say I haven’t and I’m not 100% sure yet, I get comments like “Wow.  You haven’t done much yet.”  Ummm…pretty sure a venue is a little more important right now.  I put hours per day into planning, but I know I’ll change my mind about the dress and colors so I’m waiting a bit longer to decide on those.  Augh, so annoying.  When you find out how to get it to stop, let me know!

Post # 6
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2657 posts
Sugar bee

We’re date twins!  It’s natural for parents to want to know about the details.  Just this weekend, mine asked questions about which hotel blocks to reserve and how to manage guests coming in from out of town.  We haven’t even sent out invites so it’s not like we need to deal with this detail right now.  What helps is to have a rough timeline in mind the next time they ask questions, like “I want to have my photographer booked by October” or “We’re going to decide on a catering menu in the spring”.  That way, they have an idea of what your schedule is like and will hopefully back off.  If they keep pushing, just be polite and remind them that it’s your wedding to plan, not theirs.

Post # 8
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MrsS_to_be:  it is a very stressful process!!! just try to remember to keep calm and ask for help when you need it!!!!

 

I don’t want to alarm you too much, but your FMIL does have a valid point…with a little over a year before the wedding, you should be at least meeting with some potential vendors (you going to need time to shop around I’m assume, as I doubt you will book the first florist, photographer, etc. that you meet with). I don’t know too many specifics about your type of wedding or your location, but you’re going to want to secure your bigger vendors (photographer, dj, limo, florist) soon so they are available for your wedding day. As previously mentioned by another bee, contacting vendors via fb or email is a quick way to touch base. Good luck and stay positive!! Smile

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