Easter is always so tough to figure out…

posted 3 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: What Should I do about Easter with my In-laws on Good Friday?
    Have dinner with FILs on Friday, but don't eat any of the meat : (6 votes)
    75 %
    Have dinner with FILs on Friday, and help myself to ham anyways : (2 votes)
    25 %
    Politely decline dinner with FILs, and observe Good Friday with my family : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
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    2271 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I would just set up a schedule where you alternate every other year.  It’s what DH and I have found to be the most fair to all families involved.  If your ILs insist on having Easter dinner on Good Friday, then just avoid the meat.  If it upsets them, explain why you do so.  If they are celebrating Easter, chances are they’ll understand your religious reasons for not having meat on that particular day.

    Post # 3
    Member
    1472 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’d go and avoid the meat. Let them know ahead of time about the restriction, but that you don’t need any accommodation and will eat the vegetables provided. Say that any other day, you’d love to have their delicious ham. If she gets miffed about that, let her be miffed.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7412 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Papillion:  I think you are over complicating things. Just go and have your FI mention to his mum that you wonr be eating the meat due to it being Good Friday. It really isn’t that complicated to figure out, unless of course the real reason is you don’t want to spend the holiday with them at all.

    Post # 5
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    490 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I agree with PP about alternating holidays, its the easiest and fairest thing to do in the end for both families.

    However, given this situation I would go to the FILs on Good Friday but have them know in advance that you cannot eat meat on Fridays, if anything have your FI tell them.  I am guessing they are Christian, but not Catholic so they are allowed to eat meat on Friday’s during lent? People are normally pretty understanding with religious practices, so for them to be upset about you eating meat would be very unfair.

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