Post # 1
So we are thinking about booking our wedding for Easter weekend. We are not religious, but I do have some family members who are… the plus side is our whole family would actually all be together on Easter, which is a rare occasion. They could very easily go to a local church on Sunday as well (the wedding is essentially destination).
SO my question is, has anyone ever done this and did you receive any backlash or fall out of your guest list because of it? Is it really that big of a deal to be away from your small children on Easter (we arent allowing kids at our destination wedding so the parents can kick back). Am i being insensitive?
Your thoughts/experiences would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
@tigerbell: I’m more concerned about the “no kids at our destination wedding” part. Are potential guests with kids ok with this? How far do people have to travel and how many nights are you hoping they stay? Organising overnight babysitting is a big deal.
I think you’re best off asking potential guests, because everyone is different. When my kids were younger, I wouldn’t attend unless it was a single night, and even then only for someone close. (And in answer to the original question, I’m Christian and Easter with my kids was a big deal when they were younger. I’d probably still attend if it was just one night and it was someone close, though).
Post # 4
Easter weekend wedding, fine. DW, fine.
Destination wedding that guarantees I’ll miss one of my kid’s limited Easters?
I would have to decline that invitation!
Post # 5
I don’t have a problem with no kid weddings but if I were invited to yours it would an immediate decline. There is NO way I would leave my kids behind on a major holiday. Even if your not religious there is always the Easter Bunny aspect of it. Easter is a major family holiday and asking for your guests to leave their kids behind may mean an awful lot of declines.
I would ask your VIP’s for their brutal honest opinion before you put this in concrete. And dont ask, “You would still come to my no kid wedding on Easter weekend, right?” Ask, “We are thinking of getting married on Easter weekend with a no kids DW. How would you feel about attending without the kids on Easter weekend? Please be honest.”
I really think this may not go well for you if you have a lot of guests you want there and they have kids.
Post # 6
If some of your guests are involved at their churches, this may be a tough weekend for them to miss. I sing in my church’s choir, and Easter is by far our busiest and biggest holiday of the year. I would probably not attend a wedding that weekend. So, depending on how involved your family members are, simply attending another church might not be an option.
Normally I am a “have your wedding whenever” kind of person, and I still think you should, but just be aware (as you would need to be with any destination wedding) that some of your guests might not attend because of the holiday.
Post # 7
The no kids thing would make me decline a destination wedding if I had kids and the wedding was on Easter weekend. There is no way I would be leaving my kids behind for a holiday.
Post # 8
Up to you, but expect a bunch of declines. That might be a good thing to you, or a bad thing to you, but definitely be prepared for it
Post # 9
It would be a decline from me if I had kids. 99% sure my parents would have declined in a similar situation.
I’m OK with no-kids, DW, holiday weekend weddings for the most part- but all 3 is hard, especially on a holiday that I personally consider a family holiday. (Not to mention it might be a mighty hard time to find a baby-sitter.)
I wouldn’t think any less of you… As long as you wouldn’t think any less of me when I declined.
Post # 10
@tigerbell: Greetings! We were invited to a really good friends wedding the day before Easter 2014 in AZ. We have a 2 year old daughter who is just starting to understand what holidays are. It’s one thing to have a destination wedding during Easter weekend and invite children… but quite another when you do not invite children. Parents have to find childcare for an extended period of time because flights home on Easter Day are notoriously more expensive. You should do what you want when it comes to your special day but you will more than likely have a lot of declines. If you are inviting people it is because you really want them there, be sure to take those special family/friends lives into account because missing a holiday with their children could make them opt out of celebrating with you and your new husband. Being a parent… celebrating the holidays becomes a huge deal when you have kiddos to share a tradition with.
Just my two cents! Good luck!
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I agree that the no kids issue combined with a holiday and DW is probably going to have a lot of declines unless most of your guests don’t have kids.
FBIL’s wedding is essentially a DW (out of state, reqiures air travel), with no children, and a lot of the family with children are declining.