Eatablished Household Routines – Need Advice

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@AnnieAAA:  Do you both work FT? If you both work the same hours, I’m pretty sure he can manage to make himself something!

Post # 4
498 posts
Helper bee

I’d be annoyed by how stuck to the routine he is. The routine was created by the schedule, the schedule changed so the routine changes. 

But still, would it be possible for you to throw something in a corckpot before you leave for the day (or work out) that he can eat whenever? You’ve still cooked but don’t have to be there at the time. 

Post # 5
640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You are not being unreasonable. He should be totally supportive of your hobbies and make things easier for you not more difficult, which he’s doing by being complacent. Just tell him that’s it’s very important to you to attend the classes and that you can help him by giving him some easy ideas and getting things ready for him the night before so he can just throw them together by himself. Maybe that’s a reasonable compromise.

Good luck!

Post # 7
1190 posts
Bumble bee

@AnnieAAA:  Could you cook him something ahead that he could heat up? Or maybe do a crockpot? 

**I can see feminists jump all over this one, lol (I’m jumping under the bunker with you- I am the cook in the house too). It’s just something established in your household- like mine, I totally understand.**

Post # 8
172 posts
Blushing bee

cook extra on a day that you have time and he can thaw. It is 2013. If he can’t fend for himself he should at least be able to use a microwave 🙂

Post # 9
633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@AnnieAAA:  I think that the way your hubby has expressed his opinion/desires is definitely not the way to do it (no one should expect their SO to do anything except love them). But I do understand that changing routines is hard to do.

My DH and I are probably going to run itno this problem because I  am finally starting my career after university and a summer off and so we wont come home to dinner bubbling on the stove every day anymore.

What I’ve done and what you could try doing is freezing meals for the days that you don’t have time to cook. This means that it works for you because after your fitness class you can come home to a hot and ready dinner and he doesn’t have to do anything other than turn the oven/crock-pot on. You could prep these every weekend or if you have the freezer space you could make a whole bunch and live off them for a while.

I’ve made a great cannelloni (I add ground turkey and use store-bought sauce), frozen home-made meatballs, curry, and chili before, and I’ve prepped (but haven’t tried) a few different crock-pot freezer meals. There are tons on Pinterest.

Adapting sucks, but hopefully you can find something that works for both of you. And try to remind yourself of all the routine things that he does for you.

Post # 10
5222 posts
Bee Keeper

Agree with the crock pot suggestion!  

Post # 11
12900 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

The old routine was fine cause it was convienent and worked out.  When it becomes inconvienent, then a new routine needs to be created imo.  Just cause you DID cook 3 times a week doesnt mean that you should bend over backwards to keep doing it if it’s not working into your schedule when he’s a grown ass man capable of feeding himself.  It’s not like he’s a child that needs to be tended to and taken care of.  I think he’s being very unreasonable.


Post # 12
252 posts
Helper bee

@chic_and_fabulous:  +1 i was thinkin the same thing.. Just to avoid a fight i would prob cook something a day or 2 before and save it… 

op i would be annoyed thougg.. But i am totally going through the same thing right now kinda top!’GL!

Post # 14
1305 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@AnnieAAA:  Hah my SO won’t even cook one day or any day! At the same time, if I didn’t have time to cook, he wouldn’t expect me to and just get himself McDonalds or something. Good luck! Hopefully your husband will be fine with leftovers or a crockpot meal.

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