(Closed) Eating disorder and wedding recovery

posted 5 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

First of all *big hugs*  Keep seeing your therapist and talking through this anxiety!  Working through this will help you on the road to recovery. In terms of pictures, feel comfortable setting limits that you are comfortable with.  Go try on dresses alone or with people you feel very safe with. Don’t let them pictures when you are trying on dresses. While people will probably take pictures at your wedding, you can even block pictures on your FB so they are all private and no one can see them if that worries you. But really, focus on feeling beautiful in your own skin, just the way you are, because that is the why your FI is marrying you!   Good luck and hope this helps! 

Post # 4
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361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

ps. I noticed no one else is responding but I promise you aren’t alone xoxo

Post # 5
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2488 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had an ED – ana b – my weight was no big deal on my wedding day and I’ve fully recovered – they talked me into buying a dress 2 sizes bigger then my street size they altered it Down sizes and it still was to big you can tell in my pictures they blamed it on my chest but I’m only a large b tiny cup so they are full of it – find a dress that flatters you eat healthy and exercis- you will get through it !!! You will look beautiful too ! Pvm if you need

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Bainise2013:  I completely understand. I had undiagnosed celiac disease that was combined with jerk boyfriends and resulted in some unhealthy eating. I am better now that the medical profession realized that the problem wasn’t in my head, it was in my intestines.

In shopping for a dress, I have no idea what size they ordered for me– I didn’t ask and they never said. I also chose to suround myself with people who were honest, without being judgemental or cruel. My bridesmaid never said “you look fat in that dress”, but would say “no”. They were also honest when I did find the dress.

As far as photos, there is really no way out of it without looking like a giant bitch. Trust me– I’ve tried. If you want to take that risk, do an unplugged wedding and severly limit professional photos. We’ve given our families each 15 minutes for photos.

One other thing you can do is talk through your fears. You will be stunning and physically healthy on your wedding day. If you can get their mentally (just as hard as physically), it would be the greatest wedding gift. Everyone will tell you that you are beautiful, and I am sure you will be, but you need to be able to believe them. It is hard and sometimes takes some help, but it will make the day even more special.

Best of luck!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Congrats on your engagement and on getting your ED under control. I know from experience how hard it is to face clothing sizes after surviving an ED.  Somehow you need to convince yourself that size number on a wedding dress doesn’t mean anything.  I’m not saying it will be easy, but you really need to try. And when you get your dress, cut the size out, so you don’t have to have it staring at you.  Remember, wedding dresses are not real life.

I’ve never understood why wedding dress designers don’t go by street sizes. The way they size dresses seems counter productive… every bride wants to feel good about herself on her wedding day, and designers do not make brides feel good about themselves when they put the number 12 as the dress size in a dress that would be an 8 if it weren’t a wedding dress. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@Bainise2013:  hey lady!  Here’s a link to how you do the approving pictures of yourself on facebook.  https://www.facebook.com/help/463455293673370/  It won’t literally block other people from putting up pictures of you, but it WILL require your approval before you get tagged in any pictures.

Also I agree, you should google the unplugged wedding thing.  It might be a good option if you think your guests wouldn’t be too upset.  Or you could at least ask your guests not to post pictures of you online.  (You could use the excuse that you want your wedding pix “revealed” by the official photographer, etc.)

xoxox

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Since I had to wear and eat to try and fill in my dress and kept loosing and loosing weight from stress no – I fit back I to my size one jeans and was just like ugh I hate this ! My Ed I don’t think was so much about weight but about hurting myself – I had. Major sI issue so I just don’t know beacuse my wedding triggered all that stuff –

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