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Well that didn't take long. I didn't bring up getting engaged or rings for two days. We had an arguement tonight and I think I FINALLY got to him that the RING doesn't matter, but getting engaged is just one more step to getting married and having a family. He pulled me in for a hug and slipped the ring on my finger!
Yay I'm engaged!!
@MissHoneyBun: Hah, yeah, that was my first thought..
Well, congrats anyways I guess!
@MissHoneyBun: Wow, I've never seen anyone be rude after someone saying they just got engaged. Thanks. Must suck to still be waiting.
He proposed after understanding what I was upset about.
Thanks everyone else!! <3
@Caizn: Yeahhh... cause THIS wasn't rude at all:
"Must suck to still be waiting."
Get off your damn high horse.
well fighting aside- congrats!
if that was how he wanted to propose, then all the more joyous for you both!
@Caizn: Wow, that was really nasty and unnecessary. I think she was just asking a legitimate question.
thanks. And OP--I was asking a legit question. You yourself said it was an argument. Not a discussion, but an argument. And it ended with a proposal. First I've ever heard of that., "must suck to still be waiting." Sounds like your marriage will be built on much maturity.
And to answer your question, no--it doesn't suck to still be waiting. I'm one of those insane people who are happy where they're at while still looking forward to the future. Crazy, I know.
@Caizn: Congratuations but that was an incredibly rude comment you made. Someone asked a valid question and you responded with snark.
Congrats! I thought it was cute, since you clearly weren't expecting it. Now ring porn!
First off, congratulations!
Second, I agree with the other PPs... that comment was not cool. And I don't mean to be a bitch, but my first thought after reading that rather immature, hasty comment was that I was glad you'd be leaving the Waiting boards [since you're engaged and all, figured you wouldn't frequent these parts much anymore]. Which is terrible, because I'm not a mean or rude person - I don't even know you - but that comment just didn't sit well. Especially after seeing how some of these fabulous ladies gave you really great insight on the other thread you posted, just days before your SO proposed.
Alas, I digress. Happy planning! :)
I agree with the other PPs as well--that was really uncalled for. She was only making an observation, which was also my initial thought after reading your post. One of the things I love about weddingbee is that people can be honest about their reactions to a post or their thoughts on a certain situation. MissHoneyBun was doing just that--stating what came to her mind, in a straightforward but in no way rude manner. But your reaction was definitely rude, and it's just weddingbee etiquette to own up to that!
@authentic: Thank you for the congrats. MissHoneybun's comment didn't sit well with me to be honest. I have never seen or heard of someone asking something so rude after someone saying they have gotten engaged. Had she said "hey grats" then as a curious side comment asked if he had proposed after an arguement, thats another story. Also, I have NO problem with anyone else, and I felt I got really good feedback from everyone on the other thread. I just felt MissHoneybun was really rude.
@Shirinjoon: I thought I was pretty honest during my reply as well. She was rude, no two ways about it. I'm not on WeddingBee to argue. I'm here to celebrate my engagement, to be a part of this AWESOME community, and well...to steal some kick ass ideas from these amazing girls. Too bad a few have to ruin that. (Not implying that you are one of them. :)) Yes, I was a bit snarky, but I do not feel I was any more rude than she was.
For those of you asking for ring porn...ummm one minute while my camera battery charges! lol
I don't think that MissHoneybun's question was rude. It was just a question and then you flipped out. I wanted to ask the same question. It's not the best proposal story.
@Caizn: Sorry, but MissHoneyBun was not rude. You were. She asked a valid and honest question and you had no right to respond the way you did. I understand you're new here, but that is not the way to make friends.
ETA: Why are you telling a completely different proposal story from the one you posted here?
@futuremrshc: Yeah, I didn't think MissHoneyBun was being rude either... my post was referring to the OP's comment.
I think we were all wondering the same thing MissHoneyBun was lol.
And that's interesting, a different proposal story. Hmm.
Wow, Bees. Wow. Both are true, I just didn't want everyone on THAT thread also jumping down my throat. We had a long day at work. Had a SMALL arguement about something not related, however it turned into me explaining what I wanted out of life. Basically, to get married to him and have a family. He apologized, hugged me, then slipped the ring on.
I didn't realize I had to give a bunch of strangers a blow by blow. And yes, without any sort of congratulations, her question was rude. Maybe I just have a more old-fashioned way of looking at politeness. If someone tells you they are pregnant you don't ask "Hey, you mean that loser that broke up with you knocked you up?" No, you say congratulations and leave it. Yes, he proposed after an arguement. I wouldn't have it any other way.
I don't know what the hell has been going on lately with this board but the snarkiness is getting hurtful. This blog/community/board is supposed to be about the happiest time of your life. Jeez.
Ps Apparently I cant upload pictures right now. I guess I'll have to wait.
I saw this post earlier today and it's been bugging me ever since. I have to say any urge to say congrats evaporated the instant you taunted MissHoneybun for asking a legit question (as did MissMango and I don't see you jumping all over her ass). You were not snarky, just plain rude and mean. Her question may not have "sat well with you" but your reaction was complete overkill. And not a way to win friends in the hive. An apology would go a long way. It's a pretty forgiving bunch and I do hope you can overcome this rocky start and enjoy your time here.
First congratulations, I hope the next phase of your life is an exciting one.
Second, I do think you need to understand that your comment was completely uncalled for in regards to MissHoneybun still waiting.
I am sure you are a decent person who with a bit of emotional distance will recognise that this was infinitely innapropriate.
@PutABirdOnIt: Like I've said several times- Miss Mango said congrats in her post. She was at least polite enough to say that. I've already explained myself. Take it or leave it. There have been 1-2 bad apples out of many people saying grats. I am grateful for those people allowing me to see how great WeddingBee can be.
@PutABirdOnIt: Same here. I want to say congratulations but way to hit below the belt.
Exactly. I was a waiting bee myself not that long ago and I know how exactly how it feels. So, I was just stunned by OPs response. It's like someone shat in my nest (or hive, as it were:)
Congrats. I hope you guys have wonderful long lives.
But I have to add that whether or not you interpreted the other poster's comment as rude, if you were truly taking the higher ground you would have politely replied with a clarification to your short post. Not snapped back. Snapping, then claiming you were in the right and she was in the wrong and arguing how the comment should have been translated isn't taking a higher ground.
@Caizn: Honestly, shame on you for making it seem like it's her fault. She said something that you took the wrong way, whoops. You insulted her, and to be honest, a few other waiting bees, like myself. She asked a question that was unintentionally taken the wrong way. You intentionally insulted her.
@Leahhh: Kinda wish WB would develop a like option for posts. :)
@Caizn:First of all Congrats!! This is a very exciting time and I hope you enjoy every minute of it!
Now, I normally don't get involved in this because I'd like to keep the hive as an enjoyable place to visit but I feel like I need to put my 2 cents in. First of all, I think that there are 2 parties here that need to own up. I agree with the OP that MissHoneyBun's comment wasn't the most warming comment in response to her proposal story but that doesn't necessarily mean that she needed to retaliate with the comment she did. I also think that there is no need to 'gang' up on Caizn as she was somewhat standing up for herself. Yes, maybe not in the most appropriate way but still nonetheless.
In any case, I'd like to keep this place as peaceful as possible so i refuse to pick sides but come on ladies, let's continue to be supportive of one another because we all know what each of us are going thru.
@Danielle81: Thanks :) No, my comment wasn't the most appropriate, but like you said, neither was hers. All is forgiven. Can't stay mad long when I'm writing a paper on my (adopted unbeknownst to her) gramma, Aretha Franklin. I dare you to watch this video and not smile.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XGqx4asAJqs
Now if I could only buckle down and write the paper instead of constantly checking WeddingBee!!
@Caizn:lol I hear ya! I don't know what I am going to do in a couple months when my wedding is over! I'm going to have nothing to do with my time!
@MsMamaBear:thanks! I've had nothing but great experiences here and I'd like to keep it that way! :)
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