Post # 1
Please help! Looking for:
- # Invited
- % Accepeted
- Either your or Fiance family coming from “out of town”? (anywhere from 2 hours to out of state away)
We’re inviting 20% over what our venue can hold. We’ve already sent out Save the Dates. FI’s whole side of family & friends will be traveling about 2+ hours to make it, so we expected a few more of them to decline. We’re also doing an “Adult-only” reception (minus immediate family members). However, we have LARGE extended families so we’re inviting 420 (we were really pushed to invite “all family” but then I was thinking a number of distant ones wouldn’t come).
Now looking at a few others’ RSVP counts I’m worried. I need more stats! 🙂 Thank you!
Post # 3
Good luck, girl!!! I hope it all works out… this thread is what keeps me in check from adding more to my guest list!
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Be careful! If you go over capacity, you will have a big problem. Our RSVP rate is 80%, but our Out of Town rate is pretty high- we have people coming in from 11 states- 2 hours is nothing to drive for a wedding. You can’t disinvite people, so I would be worried, too. I think you need an A & B list.
Post # 5
We didn’t invite more than our budget or our venue can hold… I am just too much of a weenie to chance it! So far, a handfull of our Out of Town guests have declined, but we have a lot of people accepting.
Post # 6
Ok– since no one else wants to make you feel better, I will.
We invited 300 people. We ended up having 198 attending. Our wedding was in Milwaukee– about 15% of the invited were from Milwaukee, 45% from Chicago, 20% from Northern WI/or Minnesota (over 2 hours away, but driveable), and the remaining 20% was from East Coast or West Coast (had to fly).
To keep calm (my ideal # was 200 guests), I used this:
The function that was helpful was the % chance of the guest actually attending– once I had calculated that (and I was generous), I realized my estimated guests were around 215. That made be feel a lot better : )
Post # 7
Sh************t. Ok, now I’m really worried. The guest list is pretty non-negotiable unless I want to not invite my friends or ask Fiance to not invite his (all of whom have received STD’s). There were fights, tears, battles about the dang list. FI’s family’s from an area where its big families & 400-500 people weddings, so they were shocked with the 350 capacity. My friends, however, think we’re ridiculous with this guest count. LOL is all I can do at this point I guess and hope for the best! 🙂
Post # 8
@AEMalmostK: Whew. Thank you!
Post # 9
i don’t know what advice to give you, i hope it works out! i will not be inviting more than whatever venue we choose can hold
Post # 10
I got a 65% acceptance rate.. A lot of people who were over 2+ didn’t come.. and even some around here didn’t either.
Post # 11
I have a friend who got married last year that invited 360, had 160 RSVP yes, and on the day had 120 show up. However, their wedding was in Texas and most of the bride’s invited came from Arkansas and most of the groom’s invited came from Idaho, so both sides were traveling a great distance for the most part. My Fiance and I flew in from Seattle to attend it, though!
ETA: OP, it must be a Wisconsin thing? I have a friend from Mosinee who has been to several weddings back in Wisco recently and they were all 400+ person weddings! That seems so huge to me, but he said it’s very common for them!
Post # 12
We also invited 420 people. Several people are overseas (my mother’s family is British) so I hope we will get closer to 250 at the wedding. My venue can hold 310.
Post # 13
@MadTownGirl: Could you maybe restrict +1s until you get a better idea of how many people are actually coming? You can always contact people later to see if they want to bring a date, but it’s hard to go back once you’ve already invited someone to bring a +1.
Post # 14
Why are guests lists so hard! 🙁 I feel like such a snob thinking, “Please don’t come to my wedding!” But at the same time, really, Please don’t come to my wedding!
Post # 15
I’m not at the invite stage yet…but Future Sister-In-Law just sent hers out…she originally had 180 potential guests that she was inviting.
Well, now it’s well ovewr 200 thanks to groomzilla inviting all his personal training clients…
Post # 16
@MadameTussaud: Yes, it’s a Wisco thing…but more nothern or in rural areas. FI’s from up north so it’s very common. However, I’m from Madison and the venue we chose is one of the few VERY few venues in Madison that will hold this many.
@anemonie: That is a really good idea…thank you! I did already do that to an extent, but there were a couple people I was either unsure if they were dating someone and/or felt bad if they were maybe going to travel alone (I know I totally broke etiquette there). So I’m sure I could still find some +1’s to cut out.