(Closed) Eeek?! Invited too many?! What are YOUR RSVP Numbers?!?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 4
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Be careful! If you go over capacity, you will have a big problem. Our RSVP rate is 80%, but our Out of Town rate is pretty high- we have people coming in from 11 states- 2 hours is nothing to drive for a wedding. You can’t disinvite people, so I would be worried, too. I think you need an A & B list.

Post # 5
5479 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We didn’t invite more than our budget or our venue can hold… I am just too much of a weenie to chance it!  So far, a handfull of our Out of Town guests have declined, but we have a lot of people accepting. 

Post # 6
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Ok– since no one else wants to make you feel better, I will.

We invited 300 people.  We ended up having 198 attending.  Our wedding was in Milwaukee– about 15% of the invited were from Milwaukee, 45% from Chicago, 20% from Northern WI/or Minnesota (over 2 hours away, but driveable), and the remaining 20% was from East Coast or West Coast (had to fly).

To keep calm (my ideal # was 200 guests), I used this:


The function that was helpful was the % chance of the guest actually attending– once I had calculated that (and I was generous), I realized my estimated guests were around 215.  That made be feel a lot better : )

Good luck!



Post # 9
9618 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i don’t know what advice to give you, i hope it works out! i will not be inviting more than whatever venue we choose can hold

Post # 10
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I got a 65% acceptance rate.. A lot of people who were over 2+ didn’t come.. and even some around here didn’t either. 

Post # 11
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have a friend who got married last year that invited 360, had 160 RSVP yes, and on the day had 120 show up.  However, their wedding was in Texas and most of the bride’s invited came from Arkansas and most of the groom’s invited came from Idaho, so both sides were traveling a great distance for the most part.  My Fiance and I flew in from Seattle to attend it, though!

ETA: OP, it must be a Wisconsin thing?  I have a friend from Mosinee who has been to several weddings back in Wisco recently and they were all 400+ person weddings!  That seems so huge to me, but he said it’s very common for them!

Post # 12
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We also invited 420 people.  Several people are overseas (my mother’s family is British) so I hope we will get closer to 250 at the wedding.  My venue can hold 310.

Post # 13
1358 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MadTownGirl:  Could you maybe restrict +1s until you get a better idea of how many people are actually coming? You can always contact people later to see if they want to bring a date, but it’s hard to go back once you’ve already invited someone to bring a +1.

Post # 15
4433 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m not at the invite stage yet…but Future Sister-In-Law just sent hers out…she originally had 180 potential guests that she was inviting.

Well, now it’s well ovewr 200 thanks to groomzilla inviting all his personal training clients…

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