- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
So just want to share my nervousness and anxiety right now!! The last major hurdle in BF and my relationship is him meeting my parents (yes, yes, getting engaged, planning a wedding and all that, but I see that as CAKE for what’s to come this weekend). You see, I blame my parents a lot for the demise of my last relationship. Now, I will say my last relationship got to a very unhealthy point and it had to end but the ex blantantly told me we could never be together again because he hated my parents so much. Let me back up.
Ex-BF graduated from his masters program, proceeded to come with me as I moved towns for an internship and just basically sat on the couch while I paid the rent. Prior to this, Ex-BF came with me to my parents’ for Thanksgiving and gave some sort of impression that made my entire family think he was “weird” and that he couldn’t carry a conversation, etc. Anyways, I still don’t see this but my parents and my bro and SIL all thought he was weird and I shouldn’t be with him. I fought my parents tooth and nail but they were rude and inconsiderate to Ex-BF, refusing to acknowledge his existance when they visited me and well this obviously upset both me and the Ex. I have no regrets about breaking up with the Ex at this point, because, hey, I met current BF, but I still hold a lot of resnetment for how my parents treated the Ex and treated me in the process of trying to convince me to leave.
Current BF has met my bro and SIL several times (and has come babysitting with me for my niece/their daughter) and they fully approve of him which is why I think my parents have been, surprisingly supportive of my relationship, even giving their “congrats” when I told them we were moving in together (even though it had only been less than 6 months). But now they’re going to meet him and I am a ball of nerves and I’m trying not to take it out on BF or make him nervous in the process! He knows what happened with the Ex so he’s nervous too, but I just want them to like him and approve of him. It’s the last thing, in my mind, standing in the way of me marrying BF tomorrow.
Yes, my parents don’t have a say. And yes, I told them how upset I was with them over the Ex and I think my mom, particularly, realizes that if she acts like that about current BF in any way shape or form I am going to be furious but they’re my parents and I can’t help wanting to please them.
Sigh, thanks for reading, phew. If you have any advice for me to calm the eff down, let me know 🙂