(Closed) Effects of Becoming Engaged: Venting and Resolution

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
211 posts
Helper bee


The single friend issue, I can understand.  Cousin, not as much, but your neighbors?!  Geez, who needs enemies with neighbors like that?

I wish I had some advice to give to you, hon, but all I can do is send good thoughts and hugs from the central coast. 🙁 *hugs*  I’m really sorry that this is going on.

Post # 4
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Awww I’m sorry that some people are making such a happy time in your life not so pleasant. The people who truly matter are happy for you and as your big day draws near, hopefully the not so pleasant apples will fall into and be happy as well. At the end of the day, it’s you and your future husband. (*Hugs* from MD) I feel the same some days and have to keep telling myself the same thing. 

Post # 5
7653 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

What LadyLewis12 said…

“The people who truly matter are happy for you as your big day draws near”

And those will be the people you will want to have share your big day with you.

Good luck 🙂

Post # 6
3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@curlidiva:  Is there any chance your neighbor doesn’t think you’re inviting her?  She might be hurt and playing it off as a negative nancy, like a defense mechanism.  If she HAS been invited, I would probably make a crack about ‘well then we’re certainly going to save money with your absence.’

As for your family, I had a friend who swears that nothing has changed since she started planning her wedding but we never see her anymore.  The reason is because she is now ‘super busy’ planning the wedding so she’s never available when we make plans.  A lot of times we go around and around and nothing works so we end up not hanging out.  We went two months of this recently.

Post # 8
631 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You are not alone. This is my second marriage to my first love from forty plus years ago after leaving a very bad marriage a year and a half ago. My two grown sons, while happy for us and like my FH, do not feel comfortable being a part of our wedding. Their father, who I thought I divorced, will never move on and makes it very hard on my sons. We have chosen a destination with just us. I really do understand though it still hurts honestly. My youngest sister is a widow and has been quite I’ll this year. I have been very involved in her medical care. Since we announced our engagement, I have been with her, helped with her physical care and she never one time acknowledged the ring on my finger. I am a nurse and have always tried to understand why people behave the way they do. Truly, it really probably has little to do with you. Just try not to let the negative be an energy drain. Do what’s best for you and your wedding.

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