- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Getting engaged has been the greatest but there have been a couple of downers since then. Most of the my family and friends are happy but others, not so much.
For example, as soon as I told my cousin that I was engaged, she stopped calling. I did get one weird email a couple of months ago saying that she and another one of my cousin wondered how I was doing and that I’d fallen off the face of the earth. Funny thing is I’ve called her, left texts, and messages before the email with no reply. I finally did get another call a couple of weeks ago but it was really short. I have decided that it is no longer worth the time to continue. I still love her but I’ve got to move on.
I have a female friend and also a sorority sister that I thought would be happy for me but since the engagement has been really distant. In fact, when I did call she talked to me for about 10 minutes and then said she had to get off the phone to talk to a neighbor. That was about two weeks ago. In the past, we would talk about the issues of being single and hanging out. After I was engaged, the conversation from her remained the same but mine are now different. At first I would tell her how wonderful she is and that she deserved so much better but I think I just made matters worse. I still love her and wish her well hopefully she will find “the one” soon.
The final downer came from my neighbors. We’ve been neighbors for about 7 years. They’re a married couple with three childen. I thought we had a great relationship but as I began working on the wedding the wife seemed to always have something negative to say such as what a waste of money it was to pay for a wedding. At first I chalked it up to her just being practical but everytime we talked and she asked about the plans, she would still say something negative about weddings.
I figured maybe its because she and her husband got married really young and didn’t much of a wedding. They’ve been together since teens and been married for over a decade. We were still cordial but I started pulling away from them because of the negativity. That’s until about a month ago. Another friend, invited my Fiance and I to a wedding that happened to be on the same day and time as our annual neighborhood meeting. I orignally agreed to be at the meeting however, both of us felt that we needed to go to the wedding. First because it was a close friend and second, we had just hired a vendor that was working the event and we wanted to observe. I knew it was going to really suck not going to the meeting but I felt that I needed to go to them in person and tell them the situation. I appologized and even gave them a document use my vote if necessary.
Since then, they do not speak and even turn their backs on me when I come outside. The wife even went as far as to speed away one day as my Fiance and I tried to wave her down to tell her that she had left some stuff on the back of her truck that was going to fall off. I even texted her about it but she never replied.
I felt bad that I was not going to make the meeting and I let them down but I do not regret making the choice. However, their reaction then and behavior now doesn’t make me feel so bad. I have been their single neighbor for a couple of years and I do not feel that they accept my new status, respect my relationship and were never true friends. As I’m writing this, I wish I was mistaken because it hurts.
Despite the few negative events, I am joyfully looking forward to being married. I love my Fiance and I want my life to be with him.