Egg donation to curb IVF costs?

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

I personally think of it like it’s just genetic material. You’ve probably donated blood which also has your DNA. You won’t be carrying the kid, you probably won’t even know if it exists, so you will have no ties to this kid outside of DNA. You’re regularly just throwing eggs away,  so why not use it to benefit yourself and potentially someone else?

 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

uncltredpearl:  Well, considering you are female and your SO is female, it seems vaguely hypocritical for her to forbid you to give your eggs/genetics to someone to use when you would be taking someone else’s sperm/genetics.  Why is it ok to receive and not give?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think it’s something your partner and you should agree with, but I have to ask… Without knowing your history obviously, why is IVF your first choice? Couldn’t you do IUI, which is much cheaper?  I’m only asking because if IVF is your only option for other reasons, you may not be an ideal candidate for egg donation.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

uncltredpearl:  Well that makes much more sense 🙂 I hope you two can come to a conclusion you bith agree on!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

uncltredpearl:  Logically it doesn’t make sense, but I know that my FI would feel the same way that yours does about not wanted me to donate eggs.

We haven’t looked in-depth into our options regarding having children, but we do have a consultation scheduled to get more information on options (exciting!!!). If you have anything helpful that you would like to share, I would really appreciate it! Our plan (as of right now) is for me to carry her child (surrogacy) using donor sperm, and later on use the same donor for my own. ls that reciprocal IVF? 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I’m sure DH would feel the same way as your SO. I understand the emotional aspect of it but financially it just seems to makes more sense to donate your eggs to ease the burden.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I know this post is a couple weeks old but I wanted to add…just because you sign up to donate eggs, does not mean you will be guaranteed a taker. I signed up to donate eggs with a company that my friend had donated to. She is not full Caucasian (I am) so she had a more desirable look. a family found her with the same ethnic background and she donated to them numerous times. I was not chosen by anyone over about a year period. After that year, I took to profile down because my now DH wasn’t super comfortable with it. There are also age restriction (I believe most cut offs are around 30). So keep in mind it’s not guaranteed money. 

Good luck with your journey!

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