Post # 1
I’m unoffically engaged and just waiting for the formality of the ring, but since my SO has told me that the “real” proposal is imminent, he’s exploded into chat about anything any everything to do with our future, which I’m certainly not complaining its lovely to hear!
Anyway there we were today walking home from work together and chatting about something so generic I can’t even remember what, and he starts talking about how he thinks 32 is the perfect age to be a dad (He’s 30 1/2) atm. I wasn’t really paying attention and just said mmmed in agreement. Then about an hour later I heard in my head what he said and shock suddenly caught up with me! I had to asked him if he was serious about being a dad at 32.
He said he was and I explained that it means we would only have 12 more months before we in theory could start “trying”!!! 12 months!!
I’ve always know I’ve wanted children all my life, and I’ve never hid this desire from anyone I know incl. my SO but now the possiblity is as soon as 12 months away, all of a sudden I feel so nervous about the prospect of being pregnant/a parent etc.
Has anyone else had the moment when having children goes from being a distant plan to holy [email protected], I only have X amount of time of it just being the 2 of us!
Post # 3
Yes! I think that it happens all of the sudden sometimes! I meant my fi a little over a year ago and we are already planning a wedding and family! Don’t freak out! Good luck!
Post # 4
I feel that way about getting married haha. Like one minute I’m “I hate waiting I just want to be married!” and then the next I imagine standing at an alter and signing papers and making it official and it’s a little overwhelming. Not in a bad way, but just in a….it’s a huge moment way.
We probably won’t have kids, but actually trying to get pregannt would start getting pretty overwhelming…like imagining having a positive test would be the most shocking moment ever! Not necessarily a bad thing, but for me I don’t want a baby anytime within the next 8-10 years if that.
I think anything that you wait for for years and years is a little overwhelming when you’re finally there since you have so much anticipation and then everything changes.
Post # 5
Hah, I’m in a similar boat. Except that FH has an upper cap on when he wants to stop having kids, and he’s a bit older than me, so we have to get right down to it soon!
…which is kinda exciting and very scary all at the same time.
Post # 6
Yeah, I kinda know how you’re feeling. FI and I are both in our late 20’s (he turns the big 3-0 in just a few months) and know we need to start trying sooner rather than later. Our goal is to start a little after our first anniversary.
Even though I really want kids, it’s slightly terrifying to think of my life changing forever in, potentially, less than two years. I feel like there are so many things I still haven’t done, that will be much more challenging once we start a family.
Post # 7
I was just thinking, you know when it hit me? We were talking about money and I was thinking ahead to when we might have to replace a car (if possible). I said something about just getting an “as cheap as possible” sedan. And he says “Your car is a good choice with kids.”
It’s kind of wierd to hear him talk like that, because for a long time when we were together he didn’t want kids. And to be honest, I probably want them more than he does, but the fact that he’s now on board and talking about it on his own is pretty awesome.
Post # 8
@atalante: Same here. FI says he wants to be a young father, so we made a deal to stop having kids by the time I turn 30 (he’ll be 32), let’s see.