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al fatiha is the first chapter of the quran.. Basically it is a ceremony where he formally asks for your hand in marriage. It is supposed to be set up by your family and your father or the eldest man is supposed to accept the offer. After he agrees then they read together the first sura in the quran (al fatiha) and drink sharbat. But it is basically like your wedding ceremony. you dress like you would to your wedding except you can pick any dress you would like to (doesn't have to be white). Katb el-Kitab is the official marriage ceremony which is normally held in a mosque.
@MrsNeutrino: THANK YOU!
We have no family (on either side)to help us, but I have two muslim friends who have offered to be my "representatives." (it's the best we can do!)
(I'm going to cook them a huge dinner afterward)
My first husband was also a muslim, but we never did this. We just had a civil ceremony.
I was worried about what to wear as I can't really afford two elaborate dresses and I'm saving up for the actual wedding in 2012. Since the el-fatiha is not in a mosque, i guess I don't need my head covered?
On one hand, it's a relief not to have to deal with extended family and in-laws...but on the other hand, I sure could use some help and advice right now!
@SandyDollHair: well, yes and no. Technically, you are supposed to always cover your head in the presence of men that are not in your direct family as well as non muslim females. The Imam will be there, your friends.. and your FI who is not yet your husband and whoever else you invite. It would be polite to cover your head for religion's sake and respect for the Imam. No, its not in a mosque but it is still a religious and cultural ceremony. BUT you can wear whatever you want, you wont be stoned in your own home lol
From what I know, and have done my self, is the Fatiha is sort of like an Engagement agreement. Technically your in the " Engaged" phase - for him and you to be considered hubby and wifey you guys would need to see a shiekh ( either he comes to you or you go to a masjid - mosque) and he would write the marriage contract. You would definetly need 2 male witnesses.. how about you call your nearest Islamic center and ask them what should be done !
(: hope all works out for you!
@MrsNeutrino: Oh! I wasn't planning on inviting anybody...(Do I have to?) ...will be saving that for the wedding next year. It will just be the Imam, my FI and the 2 witnesses.
I'm not a religious person and he wasn't *really*when we met...but I think his upbringing and our future wedding is making him question things and he is leaning back towards his spiritual side. I'm willing to support him with whatever he chooses.
We don't have an islamic centre...there is a mosque that is just an old house.
I'll ask him whether or not he wants my head covered. I doubt it...but I will ask. THANK YOU!
@al1988: Yes, I think this will just be the official "engagement" ritual. The contract and "western" wedding will be in 2012. 
I was also thinking of getting a traditional Algerian wedding dress but can't find them online anywhere. I'm probably googling the wrong words....gah....
This isn't specifically algerian, but this is one of the most beautiful Islamic dresses I've ever seen, and it includes the hijab. Scroll down to see it.
http://www.orifashion.cn/index.php?main_page=product_info&products_id=3525
I'll keep looking!
@mh.albania: Do you mean the pink one? I love the colour of it!
It seems easier to find dresses from Morrocco...similar style to Algeria...What do you ladies think of something like THIS?
Thank you for your help! Keep those suggestions coming!
I'm also plus-sized....so empire waist suits me!
First of all, I love the purple dress, it's very middle east looking if that what you want to highlight. I'm not sure about Algerian specific style, but I think as long as it's not too appealing and it covers most of your skin it should be great.
About the nikkah (which you might have referred as al-fatehah, the ceremony) we're doing that too. I'm a muslim and my FH is a catholic and we both somehow don't practice, but we will do nikkah as our only ceremony besides the one in the city hall. We don't use the imam because my dad (as my 'wali') will marry us in front of 2 witnesses. There will be around 40 guests in our ceremony. The ceremony will later in the evening be followed by a reception dinner which will have more guests (300+, it's typical here).
I'm amazed that everybody I've talked to seems to have different traditions and I think it's great!
I think the ceremony we are doing is supposed to allow us to live together without having the wedding. (can't afford that part yet...one year to go) It's like a promise. It was his idea...I'd never heard of it and since I don't practice any religion I'd never educated myself on the subject.
I would love to see more dress photos...keep them coming ladies...!! Shukran!
oh i've never heard of this before. Is it something cultural/traditional?
In malaysia (where i'm from), we have what we call a risik or 'scouting', where the groom's representatives will come to the future wife's house to meet with her family about the possibility of getting engaged etc. This is to avoid confusion and embarassment should they come to ask for her hand in marriage only to find she's engaged to someone else already! This is a tradition of ours, and i like it because we women get three rings - a promise ring (simple gold band), an engagement ring and a wedding ring!
So this el-fatiha, does it mean you get the nikah done too? because from what I udnerstand without the nikah, the couple cannot live together.
@chesseplease: He is! I'm Canadian. (but he is a Canadian citizen for about 20 years now)
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My SO is planning an "el-fatiha" for us. I think he has some guilt about us living together.(a sin for him)
Is there anybody here who could give me some insight? I know it's a small ceremony that requires two witnesses, but I'd like some details about the ceremony itself. I also need to know what to wear.