Post # 1
I’ve been lurking here for a few weeks now and am writing to seek advice, guidance, personal experience, etc. in helping me make a big decision. My Fiance and I have been churning for months now and gone through about a dozen different wedding scenarios.
Ideally, we’d love to have a nice destination wedding and a casual party at home later. My fiancé’s family can’t travel this year due to finances, babies, lack of vacation time, etc. so that canceled that idea. We’re thinking about going away to get married – just us two (eloping – but it wouldn’t be a secret) and having a nice party (4 hours at a golf club – open bar, heavy hors d’oeuvres) a week later when we return. We could show pics, etc. The “traditional” wedding is an option but the guest list would be 200 and standing in front that many people while saying vowels makes me nervous – I’m very emotional and I think weddings are so intimate.
We’re getting a lot of push back, opinions, etc. to go the traditional wedding route. My mom thinks that if we only have a party, out of town friends/family won’t come, that I’ll be cheated out of a bridal shower, etc., that people won’t realize we’re spending just as much on a party as on a full wedding and thus won’t give us gifts (not that I care), that it’s wrong do the first dance, etc., that I’ll regret it, etc. — basically, the ceremony is only 15 minutes so just do it before the party and call it a wedding. UGH!
Please hive, share with me your advice, experiences, etc. Have you gotten married on your own and had a reception? Are my mom’s concerns correct?
Post # 3
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
I felt the same way. I didn’t want to stand in front of 200 people. That would just make me nervous so we got married in the Riviera Maya this past December. We were orignally going to invite just 8 people but in the end we invited everyone (over 200 people) only to have 21 people end up going. Then in June we are having an at-home reception.
Everyone has been excited about the reception. And everyone attend both of my bridal showers even the people who couldn’t come to the wedding.
I would do it all over again the same way. It was absolutly amazing being able to actually spent more than 30 seconds with each guest and the location was to die for. Everyone is still telling us it was the best wedding they ever attended.
If you have anymore questions let me know. I would be more than happy to give you my expeince.
Post # 4
We have no family that will join us in our wedding therefore an elopement was the only route to go, we figured we’d get nice photographic shots and share them with everyone. I wanted real pro pics and wasn’t going to skimp on that and still have a nice wedding (dress, veil and all)
I’ve ordered a real touch bouquet and bought my dress and veil, we’re going to puchase the rings and wait last minute to get a good deal on the trip (we go away every year anyway and are used to this type of arangement) and we’re booking a few family members to do our photography (we have a lot of talent in the family and equipment) so I’m very confident in the quality of my shots as I do photography myself as well.
We will probably get married ahead of time, legally to avoid a hassle there and then do a “vow renewal” package with the resort to set up the chapel and decorations..etc to our specification.