Elope or not to elope?

posted 2 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
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308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Faithyk328:  it sounds like you have a lot to decide on. if you really want your siblings and parents to be there then do a small wedding with just them and celebrate with others after. Personally, if you already bought the dress I would wait until it arrives and wear it for your elopement. Can your photographer not reschedule? If that is what you were basing the elopement off of then I wouldn’t do it. Think this over, weigh out your pros and cons, the finances and what it reallymeans to you. Don’t rush the idea if it is already sounding too complicated.

Post # 3
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6609 posts
Bee Keeper

Why does he want to elope so soon? Do you feel the same way? Could it just be a transient feelings of frustration? Having deposits on things you have already planned is something to consider in the decision, but on the other hand, you may lose less if you change your plans now. If you want a private ceremony but also want the celebration, you could have a small elopement followed by your celebration at a different time. 

Post # 6
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2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Faithyk328:  Elope!

I wish I would have said yes a year ago when FI suggested it and we weren’t too far into planning.

If it’s important to have your immediate family there find a different date and reschedule with your photographer. Since you don’t care about the dress if it’s in by then- awesome! If not, that’s ok too! 🙂

Then you can still have a gathering with everyone in May if you still want that. I suggest keeping it simple as the reception/food portion is what I found to be the most stressful part about the planning process.

Good luck with whatever you decide!

Post # 8
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1392 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We did exactly what you are talking about. Half planned a wedding and decided to run away. I am so glad we did. It was just the two of us and it was amazing. We had such a great trip, spent a fraction of what we would have and have great memories. There were no downsides for us. 

Post # 9
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3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Faithyk328:  

Will you regret it is you elope?

How would your families feel about the elopement?

 

Post # 10
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458 posts
Helper bee

Elope!  If that is what your heart is telling you to do and you don’t think you’ll regret it, go for it!  It shouldn’t matter what anyone else thinks, it’s your day and you can do it how you please!

I would suggest inviting your parents at least (that’s what I’d do), but if you don’t want to, then don’t! 🙂

Post # 11
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We eloped, and I am very glad we did.  That being said, I do have some regrets.

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