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posted 12 months ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What ceremony/reception should I have?!
    Small ceremony with cake & punch reception : (4 votes)
    33 %
    Small ceremony with reception at local restauraunt : (6 votes)
    50 %
    Small ceremony and big reception with everyone within the year : (2 votes)
    17 %
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    MsAmandaBartels    February 18, 2012   El Campo, TX

    I'm not going to bs anyone here, I am on a super and I mean super tight budget. I am planning a wedding under $1000. My gma is paying for the chapel, parents bought the dress. At first I loved planning a wedding, then came family's input, one family member told me she may not show up due to the wedding falling on bow hunting season, her and her husband go up north for 2 weeks. A couple family members offered to bring food, and others told me to wait till I can afford a real wedding. Ugh! So my options are 1. small ceremony and dinner at a restauraunt, 2. small ceremony and cake and punch reception 3. small ceremony and dinner at a restauraunt and within the next year big wedding reception for everyone. His parents/1-3 aunts and uncles are coming from Texas, whom I have never met. Me and my fh have been together for 6 years, and I don't see anyother reason to wait to have the big wedding. FH and I aren't big into dancing and our wedding list would be about 70? I like the idea of a small ceremony punch cake reception but it will be 7-8pm on a friday night and I don't know if anyone will attend. I can only invite 25 people to the ceremony or the chapel price goes to $200 more. Any advice or suggestions? Thank you in advance.

     
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    nqz100    September 10, 2011  

    Since the big wedding doesn't seem to matter, if I understood right, I voted for the small ceremony and dinner at a restaurant. But, if the party does matter, I would still do a bigger reception later on when you have more of a budget to work with, so you can meet your in-laws and celebrate. Our original plan was to do it that way, but the big wedding meant a lot to FI, so we decided to wait and save up more money to do the traditional thing.

     
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    Ash.L.Ramos    December 3, 2011   Savannah, GA

    I know it's been a while since you posted, but definetly go with your gut! A large party/reception can become expensive quickly, and if you keep it smaller, you can share it with the people who mean the most instead of your mother's high school friend that you've met a few times.  I hope it's going well!

     
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    Qitty    May 27, 2012   Illinois

    I know exactly what you are going thru...

    I orig. wanted to elope this winter. Just me and Him. Then have a super nice dinner and have the night all to ourselves.Then we were going to have a backyard party the following spring/summer.

    Well...The families flipped. I'm the only girl in my family and my fiance is the youngest in his family... So a traditional wedding it is!! grrr.

     

    For you i will recommend the tiny church ceremony with a dersert/cocktail party after 7pm. I think that would be really special. Plus ALL of your friends and famly will be able to celebrate with you.

     
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    Tea Lover    September 8, 2012   NB Canada

    Well I can honestly say I completely understand what your going through.  This is what we have decided to do

    Small ceremony which is going to be immediate family only (25) and then a sit down dinner after with just immediate family.

    The next day we have having a sort of Family reunion get togther as a reception that everyone can attend.  We will show up in our wedding gear and we are saving our cake cutting for that day.  This way we get to please everyone.

    The way I see it they should be happy...at least your not eloping! 

     

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