Post # 1
I have the man of my dreams and the ring of my dreams. Now I want the wedding of my dreams. The problem is, I’m realizing the money could be better spent elsewhere. I have made a Pros and Cons list for each location, but there doesn’t seem to be a frontrunner.
Is anyone else in my shoes? Has anyone else had to make this decision only to regret it later? I am relying heavily on Bees who have been through this before. Please help me talk through this!
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@shortie1848: Eloping can be way less stressful than planning a wedding, especially if you keep it a secret until you’ve already eloped.
I did the big wedding for my first wedding so I dreaded going through the stress of wedding planning for my second wedding. I really really really wanted to elope but my FI was adamant that he wanted a big wedding so we compromised and we are having a smallish wedding with 50 or so guests.
Every time I get bogged down or stessed out with wedding planning, I remind my FI it would have been easier if we had just eloped and paid for a fantastic honeymoon with the money we are spending on the wedding.
Post # 4
Elope! Every big wedding sends the bride into a “I just wish this was over” mood. If you elope you don’t have to worry about hurt feelings on who didn’t get invited, etc. If you want the basics like a pretty dress, a bouquet, and photos you can still have those, but save a lot of money on the stuff that won’t matter soon after anyway.
Post # 5
@shortie1848: There are definitely a lot of choices in between an expensive wedding and eloping! There could be an amazing solution out there that you haven’t even considered yet. if you or your parents belong to a church or other religous organization a wedding ceremony can cost next to nothing and your family would still have the joy of sharing the day with you. Even if you elope you could still have a casual reception to celebrate w/ family and friends. i think its important to consider how your parents and his parents feel about weddings and marriage and to possibly include them in this deciscion. That said, your and your finances feelings are the most important here, do what feels right and best of luck!
for me having a church ceremony w/ just family and a few of our closest friends was the best choice. I’d originally imagined a bigger more elaborate wedding, then when that started to look impossible Id really really wanted to elope but my parents and grandparents and future husband would have been too dissapointed so I found a third option and decided on something a little simpler and a little more modest than the dream wedding and im really really happy about it now (the wedding is coming up in a few months!). It’s going to be basic, simple and focused on tradition and family – and its at most half the price of the dream wedding.
I realized that there will be plenty of opportunities in my and my future husbands life together to host fabulous parties for all of our friends, but there will only be this one opportunity to share our commitment to one another with our families – that’s what helped me to feel really good about letting go of my “dream wedding”. Everyone’s experience and priorities are totally different and it can be really hard and really confusing but I’m sure that together the two of you will find the wedding/elopement that’s just the perfect fit 😉
Post # 6
@shortie1848: I am starting to see the pointlessness of this big she-bang. I also see many brides on here wishing they had just eloped.
I would do vegas! They have some really nice, classy packages (I know everyone always think of the elvis themed wedding LOL) Especially at Mandalay Bay. So many different kinds to suit your budget and wedding party.
Post # 7
@shortie1848: I had a small civil ceremony in vegas with my family it was a lot more fun than my 300 guest wedding. That is all I can tell you. Dont forget to invite your parents though if you do decide to do vegas.
Post # 8
@shortie1848: We got married at the gazebo in the flamingo then we took a limo tour around the strip stopped at the las vegas sign for pictures and then we had a reception dinner at Mortons steak house with my parents and close family members and then we went clubbing with my cousins…best wedding ever.