Post # 1
Hubs and I eloped exactly a month ago. We were hoping to have a party this month but my work has nixed the possibility of that
So we are hoping next month. I found a cute postcard invite that we could put our picture on. We are not expecting any gifts, fyi.
Our friends are super flakey. We had a bbq a few weeks ago and husbands friends couldn’t be bothered to confirm they were coming…but then just showed up! And the one who said he could come, bailed last min. This makes me want to put an rsvp by date on the invite. With that many people, we need to know how much food and booze to buy. So, here is the problem. If I put my contact info on the invite to rsvp to myself, will it seem like we are hosting this bbq to get gifts? I know our friends wouldn’t bat an eye bc they aren’t the type of ppl to bring a card or gift to a bday party, wedding, etc but I feel like my family may take offense to it. I don’t expect anything from anyone. Just show up and celebrate with us. However, would that wording offend you?
Post # 2
JazzyGirl85: You could always put, “please no gifts, the presence of your company would be the greatest gift to us” or something like that.
Post # 3
JazzyGirl85: We did something similar and put a line like that in the invitations. We also made sure to tell our guests, usually when they rsvp’d or just in general conversation that we did not want any gifts, their presence there was gift enough… We still got a few, but nothing crazy!
Post # 4
BeckyS0: housebee: I thought of that but you know the etiquette sticklers around here who would say you never talk about gifts (or not wanting any)bc people aren’t obligated to bring you anything. lol. I’m sure most people would be ok if they saw that on an invite, though!
Post # 5
JazzyGirl85: I agree with the OP, and the thing with etiquette is do what you think is right. I would rather spell things out then hope that everyone one gets the info by word of mouth. Good luck!