- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Is there anyone out there who has eloped for both of their marriages (or more?)
I only found one lady on the internet through a google search.
Ten years ago, I eloped. I was 25. Our families knew. We got married at the county clerk’s office. He needed my health insurance to get life saving surgeries (turned out to be three surgeries). It was not the best, but what was I do to? I just wore a skirt. Took our two witneses to lunch (we couldn’t afford a second set of friends, we were too poor). Then we went back to work. La di dah. I thought, “If this doesn’t work out there’s always divorce.” I thought it was good enough.
It was so uneventful. We didn’t have rings. The county clerk woman didn’t ask that prior, so in the middle of the ceremony she asked us to take ther ings out. We’re like, “Uhhh, we don’t have anything.” Ugh. Just ugh.
And now… I’m eloping again, of course with a much better future husband this time! I did have an entire wedding planned, and we cancelled it due to my father’s health. I am kind of sad to see that all go, but in a way I’m very happy I didn’t have to go through with a full on wedding event (albiet casual). I was loosing sleep over it. Plus all the drama that came with it.
I think weddings are intimate experiences. The day will be really about just us. Every decision we make, every dollar we spend, it will be because we wanted to do it.
I would have liked if just my immediate families would be there (our families have never met), but alas a dream of them around me plus a gorgeous mountain background is just not possible. A wedding is my priority, and it is clear that it’s not my families priority, so I’m choosing the gorgeous mountain backdrop. We can recite our intimate vows without holding a mircophone to our faces.
We are going to make it very special. I have a lovely gown, we’ll have flowers, cake, a professional photographer, a lovely backdrop of mountains, a three course dinner with wine pairings, a romantic room with a balcony overlooking a lake and a fireplace – all while on a 2 week honeymoon.
Plus the wedding we cancelled due to my dad’s health was for July and now we’re planning our elopement for August mainly due to weather reasons. So really he could possibly pass that week of our wedding. I’m a little worried about that, but at least we can get out of it if we have to with a little money lost. If we want to be married outdoors, I guess we have to accept that risk.
I kind of thought I’d never go down this road again, after regretting how the first one went down. But really they are so different. The people are so different, I’m so different. I guess I really cannot say they are similar any more, even though they are both elopements.