Post # 1
My future in laws sometimes ask me how wedding planning is going and usually I bring up a few things that aren’t going well and a couple things that have been going good. They latch onto the negative and just keep telling us that we should elope!
I don’t want to elope. My parents are paying for most or all of the wedding and this is a first marriage for both me and their son. We do have a 2 year old child together, and I know typically one gets married and then has children- but I didn’t think because we are out of order that I would have miss out on having a traditional wedding. We aren’t having a wedding of the year or anything, its going to be simple and nice.
Alot of my fiance’s friends seem to be giving their unwanted advice too about just eloping. But of course this is coming from couples who have had a big wedding themselves! Yes of course it would save money….but it would always save us money on taking these people off the guest list as well.
Anyone else have people/couples telling them to elope even though they had a big wedding themselves? I’m not sure how to handle it.. I thought it would be more fun. To get myself back in good spirits I try on my wedding dress 🙂
Post # 3
I haven’t had to deal with that, but my mom did accuse me of sneaking off to elope when I decided to move to Portland to live with my Fiance. It was so frustrating because she always jumps to conclusions with me. So to get her back a little I sent her an e-mail on the price of getting married at Voodoo Donuts. She freaked out a little and it entertained me, so it worked out in the end.
Post # 4
I have never had someone tell me we should just elope. I wonder why they think that’s such a better idea for you guys?! Of course, it’s your wedding and you do it the way you want to- but that doesn’t stop the frustration from non supporting family and friends. Eventually you’ll just have to tell them to stop suggesting it because it’s not going to happen.
Everyone gives people such a hard time about their wedding- it just baffles me. Just wait until one of your parents for FI’s wants to invite a bagillion of their friends. Then you’ll really be steamed. I swear to God, when my kids/friends plan a wedding, I will be as supportive as humanly possible. It’s just not fair at all for someone to bash your ideas or make you think that your wedding isn’t “right” for them.
Post # 5
What hippocrates! Just tell them you are planning a wedding and if they don’t want to help/hear about it just say so. Vent to us, who needs negative input….wedding planning is stressful enough without people telling you to call the whole thing off!