Post # 1
Hi. Has anyone ever eloped to Biltmore Estate? How was it? Also, do you know of any other neat places for eloping? I really like those old plantation houses. My guy loves Ireland. I think it would be so romantic for us to just run off somewhere. Second marriage for both of us so I want to make it special. I have a feeling that our parents will still want to be there (and my kids) so maybe we’ll have a small group. I don’t want to have bridesmaids either because at my age (44) I have accumulated a lot of different friends and I don’t know where I’d stop asking. So if there are no bridesmaids, who is used as witnesses? Thanks. I have lots of questions!
Post # 2
A friend of mine had a VERY small wedding at the Biltmore (and by small I mean less than 20 of us) and it was very nice. She had the ceremony actually at a little church then we all went over to the Biltmore for dinner and lounging. She didn’t do a DJ, or any other customary “wedding” things, it basically was just us close to her and her husband enjoying each other’s company at a beautiful venue. Someone at the venue could be a witness or the officiant can bring someone to be the witness. Good luck!
Post # 3
Thanks. That sounds nice! I saw pictures of a wedding dinner done down in the wine cellar. It was magical with the chandeliers and flowers and all the stone walls. Very intimate. I think there were about 12 people.
Post # 4
iowagal: Our plan (when we had a wedding with guests) was to have our mothers be the witnesses to sign the marriage license.
That wedding was cancelled (my dad was dying).
Then we went away on a weddingmoon and got married in Canada (after dad has passed away). We were going to use the photographer and the wedding planner as our witnesses. However, we did ask H’s parents to go last minute (like with 15 days notice) and they showed up! On a Tuesday in a different country! They are RV masters, so they just drove, plus they are retired. So they ended up signing the license.
If you cannot think of anyone while on a trip, it won’t be that hard to find people. You don’t even have to know them personally.
Bridesmaids are pretty unnecessary in my opinion. The whole wedding party thing is too.
Post # 5
Sometimes the officiant brings a friend or spouse if they know a head of time too.
Post # 6
Oh great. Thanks . I thought witnesses had to know you. Sorry about your dad! Not very nice to have happen around your wedding.
I never liked asking bridesmaids in my first wedding either. People get their noses out of joint! I actually lost a “friend” over it. I like how they do it in England with little flower girls. Much cuter and not so aekward!
Thanks for your input!
Post # 8
iowagal: Getting married on the grounds or in the house is very expensive. Page six will be a rude awakening, likely. http://biltmore.s3.amazonaws.com/9173-wedding_information_october_20132.pdf $3.5k for a garden or lawn ceremony.
Eloping to Ireland won’t likely happen if you want it to be legal. My husband and I live here in Dublin (he’s Irish) and we had to elope in another country just because the logistics of doing it here were so onerous (posting of intensions to marry, getting affidavits, etc. etc.).
In most places, witnesses are just bodies who do just that; witness. We smoked ours out about 30 minutes before the ceremony. I know their names because they’re on the certificate, but don’t know them from Adam!