Post # 1
I just want to tell you how smart you are for making that decision. I really wanted to elope and I asked my FI literally every day for 2 months after we got engaged if we could elope but he kept saying no, that he wanted a “real” wedding. I hate the idea of planning a wedding. We agreed on a small destination wedding at an all-inclusive in Mexico because it would be a lot easier to plan. And, granted, it has been a lot easier to plan than a traditional wedding. But it has still been a load of work. And because he’s a geologist that works in the field all summer, all that work has been done by me.
Now that 90% of the work is done (I probably ended up spending a good 4 hours a day for 2 months) he sees why I wanted to elope. But now, going back on our plans and planning an elopement will be more work than to just continue with the destination wedding. I’m just so frustrated that I put so much work into something I didn’t want, but did for him because he wanted it. Now he doesn’t think it’s all that important. Blarg…
That’s my rant.
Post # 3
You will still have a lovely wedding day, I’m sure! Is it too late to back out?
I will have eloped twice. Can you believe that? They will be drastically different of course.
I probably will never know what a full wedding with guests will feel like!
Post # 4
90% of the work is done for a May 2013 wedding?
Post # 5
I had a traditional wedding the first time (albeit small – around 50-60 guests) and then eloped the second time. I would soooo totally elope again! It was perfect! No worries about the family, the guests, the caterers, etc. Just us! Though, if we hadn’t just gone on a week-long vacation to Mexico, I’d have loved to have eloped in the USVI…St. Thomas and St. John are my favorite places on the planet!
Where is your destination wedding in Mexico?
Post # 6
@plzhalp: The nice part of a destination wedding is that once you have the details ironed out with the travel agent and the resort, it’s pretty much just show up with a dress. We bought all my bridesmaids’ dresses a month ago. FI is handling his GM. My dress is being made as we speak. They take care of all the detail-y things at the resort (cake, flowers, decorations etc.) and you just essentially show up, pick a cake flavor, choose a bouquet and you’re set.
It is a little late to back out. Our guests have started putting down deposits for the trip with our travel agent.
Post # 7
@AdriannaJean: I’m with you on this one! We’ve had SO many complications in the last two weeks that I’ve been crying basically every day, wishing we’d just eloped in the first place 😛
Post # 8
@AdriannaJean: Lol aw. Well this helps reinforce my decision that I want to elope 😛
I am sure your wedding will be fantastic 🙂 I love Mexico. At least you can take a breather now than the bulk of the planning is done!