Elopement Etiquette Gifts

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

If it were me, and we didn’t have a registry, I would just say, “Oh, no gifts necessary!  We are just ecstatic to be getting married and your congratulatory well wishes are gift enough!” or something to that effect.  They will ultimately decide if they want to send you something, whether it be a crockpot or a card with check.  We had a destination wedding and only did a honeymoon registry.  Most people put checks/cash in cards (no actual wrapped presents).

Post # 4
6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@CartersMum:  We did a weddingmoon too.  My MIL kept badgering me about making a registry.  I did not care to, but she was saying that her sister was going to get us something so we might as well get what we want.  OK fine, I’ll make a small enough one that doesn’t embarass me.  Turns out several of her friends – people I’ve never met – bought us items on our registry.  MIL shared that info with people she knew and who asked, even though we’re not in the same states.  I kept them small like sheets and blankets.

But when people asked me flat out, I don’t think I had it set up yet, so I just said, “That is nice of you!  Your congrats are plenty!”  I don’t think my family knew of the registry because they never asked.

Actually the girlfriend of one of my uncles found it all on her own (probably because said uncle’s son was getting married, and she was searching for his registry – same last name.) She did buy us something.

My immediate family ended up getting us Bed, Bath, Beyond gift cards as gifts.

So in the end, some poeple will get you gifts if they really want to – regardless of what you say!


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