Elopement First Time Wedding

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA

my fiance and i are basically eloping, but being able to have 20 guests. LOL
I just cannot see spending $10,000 on one day.

i’m 21 and he’s 23 and its (of course) our 1st (and better be LAST! LOL) wedding!
and i’m spending $2000 for the photographer, videographer, officiant, venue, guitarist, cake, limo all because the wedding is titled as an “elopement”

Cut the crap, elopement or not, you’re marrying your best friend, and who cares whether its an elopement or a BIG wedding… Whether you spend $500 or $20,000…

It’s you and your day:)

we are renting a beach house and having the guests (family) come and eat cake and have other low costs dessert only and beverages… and then after all that the people that spend the night where we are getting married, we will go out and do whatever :))

Post # 4
6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ontbride:  Yes I eloped for my first marriage AND my second marriage!  I cannot find anyone else on the internet who has a same story.  The two weddings were drastically different though.


My first marriage (2002)- he needed my health insurance to get some life saving surgeries.  So we went to the county clerk’s office, she stood up from her desk and we did it right there.  We didn’t dress up (kind of like church attire, but we don’t go to church).  We had no rings, and that was awkward when she asked in the middle of the ceremony for the rings.  Uhmmmm, we don’t have any.  The paperwork took longer than the actual ceremony.  In a goodie bag that they gave to us, it included info on pregnancy, a sleezy romance novel and laundry detergent sample.  So odd and random.  We went to lunch and then we went back to work.  Very uneventful.  Price tag: $40 for license, $30 for lunch for four people.


My ex had his surgeries (turned out to be three of them, he also go addicted to pain killers and more for the rest of our marriage!) and then we had celebration parties at his home state and my home state 4 months later.  My family had never met him before even though we’d been dating 2.5 years at that point.  The parties much resembled my high school reunion – very laid back.


So I did not like how any of that went down.  At all.  I felt slighted.  Maybe it was more because I married a jerk. 


This time around, I wanted something more of a wedding.  I wanted it to represent my new H and I.  I wanted it to be in the mountains outdoors.  I tried to plan a DW – that was not good.  I tried to do an immediate family only wedding – they were not interested.  Luckily my H was very supportive and was on the same page as me for our wedding.  He was also starting to lean towards and elopement.  It was his first marriage.


Alas, it was time to elope again.  But we were going to do it BIG and how we wanted!  We wore full wedding attire – I had a lace Casablanca gown, H wore a suit.  We got married while on a weddingmoon up in Canada.  We used an elopement package that was part of a historic Canadian lodge overlookng a glacier lake in a national park.  It was just spectacular and it was perfectly us!  Who goes hiking the morning of their wedding?  We did!  PM me if you want to see photos.


Now, it is a little odd that my family has never seen me get married – twice now.  But the freedom, the flexibility, the lack of stress – I have to promote eloping now.  It was really the way to go.  Turned out better than anything that would have included my family.  We did host a very casual local party one month later.  Very casual as in no family was invited – they all would have had to flown in.  It was not that fancy of a party to warrant flying in – more to celebrate my recent graduation, our new deck, and the marriage.  I tried to not focus on the wedding part and just make it a party.  Plus we only planned it all in one week.


The wedding and all things wedding related (photographer, officiant, three course wedding dinner, flowers, etc). turned out to be about $3300.  The 11 day road trip to Canada was about $3700.  We did both fancy lodges, regular hotels, and camping all in that trip.


Post # 5
5909 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@ontbride:  First time bride, opted for a semi-elopement.  We had 25 guests if you counted us the minister, his wife and the photographers….so quite small….it was also tossed together in less than a month since a long engagement was not something that appealed to either of us in the least…..all said and done, the total for the wedding was $1,000, but a photographer friend of mine did the photos for free, my father collects cars so I rode in a 1949 Packard to my wedding, we’re members of a country club so we only had to pay for the food and the bar…Mr. 99 actually owned a tux..I know, weird right, and my best friend went to school to be a florist…so we bought roses from Sam’s Club and made it happen that way….easy.

After, a couple of months into the summer, we threw a big BBQ for everyone to come to, see the house, eat and celebrate, the same photographer offered portraits for the families as our gift…once again she did this for free and some other friends of ours, who worked at a brewery brought a couple of kegs of beer…it all worked out and everyone is happy….

Post # 6
43 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ontbride: Welcome to the hive! I’m also new  🙂
My FI and I are planning our elopment! I explained our plans in a post here:


Our budget is around $5000, but $1000 of that is for my FI’s plane tickets. We had major problems with our guestlist and a lot of family drama, so we decided to elope.

Post # 7
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Welcome! 🙂

This is our first (and hopefully only!) marriage and we’re eloping. It will be just us, our photographers, our videographers, and our officiant. Like you, we plan to have a party later, to celebrate with our families.

Our wedding will include a religious Jewish ceremony in the loft of a barn, followed by a vegetarian reception with wedding cake downstairs. We’re having so much fun planning it! 🙂

Post # 8
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We are also planning an elopment. No Family or Friends just the two of us. My SO and I lead very private lives together. We just didnt see the need in paying for two huge families to eat drink and complain to one another. Not worth the stress or money IMO.

We did discuss inviting 1 or 2 people from each side to witness with us, but we couldnt seem to find the comfortable spot where to draw the line. If you want just parents there do you have to invite step parents, and if you invite friends which ones do you include and exclude. ect.ect.

We are planning a trip to Vegas in Nov. It will be a 1st (and last I hope) wedding for both of us. Right now things are budgeted out for about $5,000 including Airfare and hotel accomidations. We are both wearing full wedding attire, seeing a Circ Show afterwards and a swank dinner. So all the major bones of a wedding just minus the audience.

I have a few friends who have gotten married recently and once they find themselves in the thick of the planning always say to me that they wished they got the chance to have my wedding. Make it as cheap or as posh as you like, with whats important to you and your SO. Its about the two of you anyway.

Post # 13
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ontbride:  I eloped on my 1st marriage and no my FI wants us to “do it the right way” and am planning a wedding. Go for what your hearts say!

Post # 16
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@ontbride:  We are getting married at the Chapel of the flowers. It is one of the newer renovated facilities I could find there, and I have read nothing but great things about it thus far. Starting to get pretty excited!! EEAAKkk

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