Post # 1
What exactly do you all think of when you hear the word ‘elope’?
Here’s my situation. On Valentine’s Day, it will be a year that FI and I have been engaged. We had planned a long engagement from the get-go, planning to wed in summer or winter of ’11, so that we would have time to save up money.
But this past year has gone by SO FAST! And no money has been saved due to unfortunate circumstances. Throughout this year, I have been thinking about what type of wedding I want to have, writing out a guestlist and doing some research on budgets. I don’t want a large wedding, and given our financial situation, we cannot afford to have one anyway. And our first guestlist ended up being around 60 people.
So we’re thinking about having a intimate wedding (maybe fifteen people, maximum, including myself and FI) located a couple of hours out of town. Would you consider that an elopement? (My parents and his mother will be in attendance– his father has passed away.)
Also, if this is what we decide to do, how should I tell everyone who is not invited that they are not invited? I’m not sure if they will be able to appreciate how expensive and stressful planning a wedding is, and I know some of them will be majorly pissed. Advice?
One last thing– somewhat unrelated. We might have a winter wedding. Have any of you worn high heeled white boots in your wedding, or know of a bride who has done this, instead of traditional heels? Any pics? And what do you all think about this?
Post # 3
Bluespurrs wore victorian boots with her wedding gown, not sure if that’s what you mean. I wouldn’t consider that an elopement, just an intimate wedding, like you said.
Post # 4
No, eloping to me is when you “escape” to get married. Typically without any guests at all.
I think that sounds like a smart idea to me. Maybe some time down the road when you both have more money, you can have a reception party that you can invite all of your guests to.
Post # 5
In my mind eloping would be running off to get married without telling anyone before hand.
What you’re talking about sounds more like an intimate ceremony. My cousin had a very intimate ceremony — parents, grandparents and siblings only. Afterwards they had a big reception.
As to the boots. I have a friend that wore regular cowboy boots with her dress. It made for some cute pictures and the shoes didn’t show in any of the other pictures.
Post # 6
I am having an “elopement” as well and I am not telling anyone who is not in attendance until after the deed is done. We plan on sending out wedding announcements after the fact.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t necessarily consider it an elopement but I still think its an okay way to go. Just plan the wedding the way you want, inviting who you want, if people question why they weren’t invited, let them know it is becase you wanted a small wedding.
Post # 8
I would keep all of the wedding planning on the down low, especially if it’s only going to be immediate family, and then afterwards send out a nice announcement. That way people wouldn’t feel left out before hand and you won’t get harrassed, and after the deed is done you can just apologize and explain that with all you could manage was a little, intimate affair. Otherwise, no need to explain yourself! I think you’re intimate wedding sounds fabulous, mine was much larger then I wanted.
Post # 9
we eloped – my mum and his folks new but i didnt tell anyone else, oh – hubby told his work friends but i dont know them so it didnt affect us. we flew off to paupa new guinea to be married and we mailed everyone on our list a “message in a bottle” themed annoucement telling them we have taken off to be married and when we got home there were a number of congrat cards in the mail which was nice.
a few months after the wedding we did have a big at home catered lunch party that everyone enjoyed and at a fraction of the cost
whatever you decide im sure will be good – make the decisions for yourself and your FI. personally i wasnt prepared to wait around and not be married so instead of a december wedding (in an aussie summer-what WAS i thinking) we had a june wedding