(Closed) Elopement=only civil wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Marissa007:  I went to a church wedding before where there were just a few people there.. so I don’t see any reason why you couldn’t do that if you wanted to.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

As long as the officiant is fine with it, I don’t see why there would be a problem!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If by “church” wedding you mean the officiant adds a *religious* component, regardless of location?  Or do you mean takes place in an actual church?

It can vary…. but the answer to your question is yes. 

You can get married in a *church* because that is the only location available and have a JP marry you with no religious content in your ceremony (provided the *church* would allow it).

you can get married in the backyard and have a religious ceremony because your officiant (and you with your vows, music etc) adds the religious component.

I was married before in Jamaica in a gazebo on the beach.  I was married by a priest, and there was a religous component to our vows and ceremony (ie – the priest spoke about God and the first wedding in Cana etc).

This time we are getting married in a chapel (not a church).  But there will be NO religious content and we are writing our own vows.  This chapel can handle an “elopment” with just Bride and Groom, officiant and 2 witnesses (provided by them or by you). or a 200 person ceremony.  Can be religous….. or not.

Just work with your location and determine what’s available.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Some JPs will also add a religious component if you’d like. I know when I was researching them, several said they’d have no problem reading scripture, etc.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

By “elopement,” do you mean “running off to do an unplanned, unannounced marriage and then tell everybody afterwards”? (i.e. what elopement used to mean back in the day) Or do you just mean “a very small wedding with only the officiant, legal witnesses, and maybe immediate family present”? (i.e. what elopement seems to sometimes mean nowadays)

Many church weddings (depends on the denomination though) require a certain amount of lead time and marriage preparation classes, etc., so in that sense, you can’t really do an elopement in the first sense of the word in some churches. However, you can always arrange to have a tiny, simple church wedding in the second sense. Not super common, but definitely always possible.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My dad and his 2nd wife got married in the church with just me and my grandmother there.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I always thought the idea of a church wedding with just our parents, MOH and Best man would be romantic.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Marissa007:  you can totally do a small church ceremony like a pp said, since it’s not like a traditional elopment in the sense that you’re running off and getting married tomorrow and you have time to prep you should be more than fine!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Aren’t Vegas wedding basically what you are describing.  I know someone who got married in Vegas in a church quickie thing and they had only a few people there.  It was fine.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Marissa007:  I think you’ll find that some religious elements can be worked into elopements.

I’ve been doing a bit of research re: marriage commissioners/officiants in my area and some do religious ceremonies. I don’t know if you can do it in a church (probably, I don’t see why not). I’d get in touch w. a few officiants and see what they say.

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