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Hello!

Well, I am looking for some support, other than from my parents, which is definitely awesome that they have given their support. (We will be talking to FH parents tonight, don't know how my FMIL will take it...)

Anyway, this is the story, for the past couple of weeks, I have been suffering (I say suffering because there are a lot of other emotional & physical aspects of this struggle) with Patellar Tendonitis, more so in my left knee, recently developed in my right knee. I just started my Phys. Thrpy today--the Therapist has told me that I will be going thru some very painful therapy in the next few visits. I am probably doing this for the next 6 weeks, or so. Being that there are certain exercises that I'm going to have to do for my crazy knees, I'm going to need someone to help me out. It's been really hard, I pretty much ended up not being able to walk for a week & I wasn't supposed to climb stairs & had to for work (no elevator here) So things have been TOUGH for my left knee & I think my right knee had enough & started having an attitude of it's own. I'm kinda...not able to walk, I am, but I waddle, like a peguin, legs straight out, side to side, hurts to bend them. Anyway!!!!! Continuing....

FH has an apt. and I HAD a home, back in DEC. but left because I couldn't stand the people I lived with. I now share a bed with the daughter of the family who originally intro'd FH & I. Which isn't a problem--we're grand friends, but last week FH & I literally had to pack a suitcase of my stuff (cause it's all at his apt.) to take over to this family's house for the week. (We don't actually live together-remaining abstinent until we are married) It was such a hassel & he really didn't have time to do it (finishing up his college, graduating May 9th) and so, this is the thing, I haven't really had a permanent home since I moved here. I've also spoken with him about this idea before, but not until last night did he realize how absolutely important it would be for him to take care of me (well, neither of realized the magniture of my knees) so we have decided to have a small family ceremony this coming Saturday 04/14/09 & continue on with our huge wedding/reception (dresses, tuxes & all) on June 13th & actually celebrate our anniversary on that date (well, we don't mind celebrating both). But, being that this is life at the moment, attempting to remain abstinent, not wanting to hide this from our family, we have invited, just our immediate family & the family that intro'd us (I've known them my whole life--they are practically my family)

 I've been told both sides of this whole thing. Those who agree, those who don't. I just need to get some feedback from a place where everybody's talking 'wedding' anyway ")

See if I can bounce this off someone who's not in my shoes.

Am I crazy? Is this wise? LOL!!!

My sister told me that she's upset that she can't be there, cause it won't be special. To which I was like, 'well, for you? or us? cause the way I see it is, this guy loves me enough to marry me twice & that's sayin sumthing!'

Anyhoo, thoughts? ")

I think this is a great idea. My fiance and I are thinking about doing the same thing. I work 3 part time jobs and none of them give me insurance and he just started a new job (while going to pharmacy school) that is giving him insurance and benefits. Win win for us and me if I'm his Mrs. Between that and the face that we simply can't afford a huge wedding right and have family members with medicial issues, we got the idea to have a small private wedding,. It's a lot of stress in both of our families right now and no one seems to have a problem with us already being married when we have the wedding. It's not really the wedding that marries you, it's the piece of paper you sign - so sign it whenever and then have a party!

Last night we spoke with his parents about this, we invited them & asked for their blessing. Unfortunately....   they...absoutely did not support us what so ever, before we knew it, they were bashing 'me' well, his dad was. He told me I was immature & needed to deal with my problems & stop running from them. He says I've been running from my problems since I've moved here. Which is so not true, I can't help that the people I moved in with at first were crazy, I can't really help that my boss is nuts & I deffy couldn't help the knees. My knees are actually feeling much much better today though, but.....

wow.....

we said nothing, the entire time, there was absolute silence, on our end.

We thought out of both of them he would be the one to support us. He didn't even bless us. At all. The whole conversation took and hour and 45 minutes & it was basically him telling me to grow up, the whole time.

We completely called it off. When we got back to FH's apt, we just...still....sat there...silently, I don't think either of us knew what to even THINK, not to mention attempt to articulate. We were both completely worn out.

It was one of the worst nights of my life. This man has been so super yo-yo with me too. I just....don't understand him. And then his poor mother cried, I feel so bad about that, we weren't trying to hurt them, we thought we were bringing this to light, not hiding it & just including our parents.

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Wow.... I have really stupid ideas at times that are apparently, completely immature...

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I feel completely decimated, not even hardly a human....so numb....

I wanna throw up