Eloping Advice

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Plan a nice, long honeymoon and get a photographer for the ceremony!

Post # 4
1715 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t really have any advice, but what you’re planning is not an elopement, it’s a private ceremony. You can use any term you like, of course, but I figured I would mention it anyway.


Post # 5
1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

Photos and/or video.  You will want to be able to share your special day with friends and fam 🙂

Post # 6
1 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

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Post # 7
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2000

I think with elopments (I had one, also spurred on by our differing nationalities and impending legal status issues), the trick is just to make sure, first and foremost you have a handle on all the local leglities and their impact on your visa’s timeline. We had a quick appointment with an immigration attorney before deciding that elopment was indeed the most logical route (bonus is it turned out totally the way we would have wanted it anyway!). The appointment wasn’t too expensive and did help clarify the realities of what was going to be involved to do it within Ireland.

think that timeline-wise, you’re able to do all this is Australia, whereas in Europe with things like Certificat de Coutume, apostilles, letters of freedom to marry, affidavits, consulate visits… it was just going to take too darn long. So we booked it to the Carribbean. Darn our luck! Just make sure you know what they need to prove you’re free to marry and if they requite ‘posting of banns’ or ‘intent of marriage’ notices, etc.

After that, if you know where you stand and are happy to proceed, you get to do the fun stuff. I’d start with choosing your various ‘non-negotiables’ (Nice room for the night? Special outfit? Pro-photographer? None of the above?). This helps with budgetting, putting other things into perspective, etc. (eg, what isn’t actually a must-have for you and needless hassle).

The cool thing with elopments, things genuinely do just fall into place. You don’t have witnesses? Amazing people come out of the woodwork. No photographer? One magically appears. People love a wedding. People feel really happy to chance upon being part of one. It’s an amazing feeling to watch a crazy plan come together, and it’s something about my experience I wouldn’t change for the world.

Post # 8
7280 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@FU_Rhopalocera:  Wow aren’t you delightful. Rhopalocera is correct what the OP is doing is not considered eloping. She was not rude in her delivery of the information to the OP unlike yourself.

@nickisunday:  I think as long as you are sure that you don’t mind getting married without your families and friends there then go for it. From what I have seen the biggest regret of people who elope is not having the traditional wedding experience with friends and family. It was the reason that we changed our elopement to Vegas into a DW.


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