- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
My fiance and I have been engaged for a while, we did not plan our wedding straight away after the wedding because we wanted to sort out our finance first.
My mother in law out pressure on us and went to the extend of not talking to her son for a month because he said to her that he was not yet fianancially ready and wanted to wait a little bit. We finally agreed with her that we will set a date and have a budget wedding (we were thinking of a small and nice wedding). The problem now was that she then took the whole wedding plan in her hands, the wedding had to be at Her home town, there had to be more than 250 guests otherwise she wouldn’t come, the caterer had to be chosen within people she personally knew, and she wanted to pay for everything ( we did not have much choice on this because we have a small budget). The wedding was to be in the church she goes to every sunday the reception in the church hall.
At first I was not happy with all this but my fiance was more on the side of his mother although he would have prefered s small and simple wedding. I then thought well ok it is not just about be I will try not to be a bridezilla and I did not want to have tensions with my in laws. I went along with the plan and convinced myself that I was ok with all this.
Two months before the wedding because my parents and in general my family saw that I was not so excited about my wedding plans advised me to postpone and do it later when I have money to do it my way, it was actually what wanted deep down.
I called my MIL to say I might want to postpone due to my parents who were unhappy she said, no problem I have not yet spent the money anyway, so I thought cool let postpone. I did it and my MIL took it very badly, her blood pressure went high she was depressed for more than a month bacause of that, because without telling me she had planned and paid for a lot of things for the wedding. She is now very bitter and hates me and is poisonning my fiance’s head telling bad things about me (although she was happy with me until I postponed).
My fiance decided now to stand by me and we are considering eloping due to the circumstances, will it make things worse?