(Closed) Eloping against family wishes

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Shannyn5:  what about a very small destination wedding with only immediate family, then heading off for your own honeymoon?

Post # 4
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

What about doing something different like a surprise wedding? It’s still fun and different and you could just surprise immediate family. My sister in law sent out a couples shower invite then surprise!

Post # 6
6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well you do need two witnesses most likely wherever you are eloping to.  When people go totally alone, usually it’s the photographer as one witness and the officiant’s spouse as the other (just as examples).  His parents could be your two witnesses, if you want to look at it that way (or you aren’t using a photographer).  Take them to dinner afterwards and then send them on their way!

Perhaps if you let them be the witnesses, outline specifically when their part comes in.  As in she doesn’t get to hang with you all morning as “the girls,”  you want to get ready alone, etc. – the ceremony is at X time and the dinner is at Y time.  Then they get to see a wedding and you get your witnesses and nearly all the day alone.

I would not start including grandparents and cousins if you’re considering immediate family at all.  That’s extended family in my book!

Post # 7
10 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

Awhh man, this sounds like a toughie! we’re eloping..well kind of…both of our parents will be present. i think that maybe your future in laws need to compromise a bit. it is your day, and if it is what you want then why not? Having them there to be your witnesses sounds like a good plan!

Post # 8
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You’re an adult. If you can’t take the criticism from his family then don’t elope. If you can take it, then do what you want.

Post # 9
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You have to do what ultimately makes you & your Fiance happy. No one is always going to be happy with your plans whether you are eloping or having a big, elaborate ceremony. You will always have to deal with others opinions. The most important thing is follwing your heart. I’m sure if you two were to elope, his family would be upset, but they would come around.

Post # 10
1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

How about elope but plan a big reception when you get back?

Post # 12
1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Elope! It’s YOUR wedding, not theirs! They will get over it and tell them they are more than welcomed to throw y’all a party afterwards!

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