(Closed) Eloping but want a “wedding” later on..

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

People have all these rules about what you “should” and “shouldn’t” do, but not everyone has a cookie-cutter scenario that works for those situations. If you want to celebrate on two sides of the country, then do it. Figure out something that’ll work for your budget.

Post # 4
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201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We eloped last September and we’re having a reaffirmation of vows and celebration with family and friends aka second wedding in August. I used to stress about it too. And those etiquette boards and websites drove me nuts. Not anymore. 🙂

It’s all about you and your FI. Do what makes sense to you and what makes you happy, because in the end that is all that’s going to matter.

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

you could certainly do a vow renewal or something later and that would be totally fine… but i have another senario for you to consider:

Who says a wedding has to be $5000? Why not have a cute little wedding of your dreams for $1000? There are many ladies on this board that don’t necessarily have an spare $5000 lying around and are doing beautiful elegant weddings for MUCH less.

Alternitively, do YOU actaully want a wedding? or is it just your family pressuring you in to something you dont want to do?

Post # 6
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Worker bee

My parents  (mom and stepdad) got married twice and my SO and I will also. My parents did a small wedding at a friend’s house and then had a wedding in a park right next to their house and then the party in their backyard. You could totally do a small wedding in a park as well, or maybe at your parents’ house and still have your bridesmaids and have your dad walk you down the ‘aisle’. Personally, I think my mom’s outdoors wedding in the park was even more beautiful than other weddings I have attended. So great to just be with people who approve and are giving their love. If people are going to be opposed to it and bring in that negativity, then they can always deny the invitation. Don’t stress with pleasing everyone, you’re the bride it’s your day. Remember, it’s about what you and your future husband want.

There’s absolutely no reason why you can’t do two weddings. I think especially with the economy, more people are eloping and doing a bigger wedding with family later when they have the money. We are also restrained financially so doing a wedding with just our parents, and when we will have more money in a few years we’ll do the big wedding. A lot of friends are disappointed to not be there for the first one, but we’ve explained to them that we just can’t financially. Your family should understand. Just remember, you’re getting married. yay!! 🙂

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We eloped giving our families only a few days notice, so unfortunately they weren’t able to afford airfare to Vegas at the time. But because there was alot of emotions involved from everyone, we agreed to have a more “traditional” ceremony this summer. Our families are from two different states as well, but because it’s more traditional to have it where the bride grew up, we decided on to go there. It was hard to elope knowing our families weren’t there, but months later, I can still say I’m happy we did it the way we did.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I got married in september last year, a very small ceremony. My husband and I went to eat after and then disneyland for a few days. This september we are having the “big” regular wedding Ive spent about 5thousand also but would be a lot less if I had a friend with a big back yard. A vow renewal is what we call it occasion but people have asked why are we getting married again and I say why not?!

If its what you want and your FI wants it too then why not, People are always going to have something to say about everything

 

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