Post # 1
Have any of you thought about eloping so you can get health insurance?
Sometimes I think it might be good so I am less anxious on our actual wedding day. So it would be a win-win.
What are you thoughts?
Post # 3
We did this exact thing (though I was PISSED later when I found out his company actually offers Domestic Partner benefits). I was worried I wouldn’t feel like the wedding was a “real” wedding, since we’d already gotten the legal stuff finished. I couldn’t have been more wrong. Our minister told us he does weddings all the time, some are “legal”, some are a true WED-ding of two people- whether or not legality is a part of it. That day of, I didn’t have the cold feet, cause hey, it’s already legal, but I definitely had all of the eager anticipation, butterflies and excitement. Maybe I would have done it differently had I known about the DP option, but I’m certainly not sorry about doing it the way we did. AND I had health insurance.
BTW- if we can get a flippin’ public option, brides won’t have to worry about this anymore! Just sayin’…
Post # 5
I kind of want to do this. In our state his insurance only covers same-sex domestic partners. We are going to wait though. We want our wedding day to be our first day a husband and wife legally.
Post # 6
FI and I are seriously considering doing this. We are both insured right now, but his health benefits are awful. Going to the justice of peace would save us 1200 annually and he would have good health care for a change.
Post # 7
I’ve seriously contemplated doing this not only for insurance (apparently DP insurance in NY is a ginormous pain in the a**) but also so I’m not as much of a ball of nerves on the wedding day. The Office wedding made me want to do it even more, too! Don’t think it’s gonna happen, though. You guys will be the first to know if it does cause we won’t be telling anyone if we do it!
Post # 8
I am totally up for this. His insurance offers Domestic Partner benefits, but Va doesn’t legally recognize anything other than a heterosexual marriage.
Post # 9
We are actually getting married the beginning of next year for this year. We aren’t going to tell anyone though and just have my brother and SIL come for our witnesses. I’m going to change my last name, for insurance purposes but not even my parents are going to know and then we are still going to go about our wedding normal.
Post # 10
The Office TOTALLY inspired my second train of thought! It might help sooth my nerves, which would be good since I am a anxious person by nature.
Post # 11
We just went through this too. I got a new job and won’t have benefits for 6 months. We went back and forth. I thought I could convince myself that we weren’t married yet because we hadn’t said our vows. But in the end I didn’t want to have one bit of regret on my wedding day so I became a domestic partner. It costs us quite a bit more because of the WI taxes DP’s, but we are only doing it for 10 more months (exactly from today).
If we would have done it I don’t think I would have told anybody. My family would have just said what is the point of the wedding then.
Post # 12
It is one of the reasons we are having two ceremonies. I have amazing insurance for cheap and he has horrid insurance for a ridiculous price. We plan on getting married early next year but not tell anyone. Like a pp, if my family knew, I’d get the whole well what’s the point line of questioning. FI was fine with eloping but I couldn’t get on board with the idea, well, until after there were quite a few deposits already paid.